Need help....I think i m loosing in my marriage

Snehal - posted on 05/09/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I and my husband married for more than 5 years, we have our cute 18 months old boy. I belong to hindu culture where after marriage you are supposed to live with in -laws and respect them even if they are not respectful. I had not so good exp with my in-laws. Now since last 1.5 yr we are staying away from them for work. My husband is reserved type and kind of selfish guy..he would want credit of shortest thing he did but wud never give me credit for anything in life so is his parents. There is one more family member they have- their dog. I m sorry but i m not a dog person. they all luv him so much..sometimes my husband is like he is my first kid and all which makes me furious like anything. I m simply getting a feel of not getting along with my husband any more but neither i want to take any extreme step considering out child. He is so much into that dog..he says no one loved him as dog did..i mean cmon..i sacrificed for him so much..i give him all the support including moral and financial..but i m not ever spoken about. i can feel there are lot of differences we are developing. Since our child was born we dont even sleep in same bedroom... I also know won the other hand that he loves me ..but he this is definitely not the perfect family life i ever imagined. I always pray that i should not think any evil..but y should not i get simple lifestyle that any wife would want.. I may sound confused but its sinking down..i get that feeling....
Thanks for reading that long.

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Qui - posted on 05/09/2013

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Have you and your husband ever considered Marriage and Family Therapy? It sounds like you want to fight for your marriage, like you dont really want to let it go...if that is the case, then don't! Don't let it go. If you honestly believe that he loves you and wants to be there, rope him in to agree to counseling and get the help you need. Sometimes marriages end without a good fight. People think it is supposed to be easy, adn I am here to tell you it is not.

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Qui - posted on 05/10/2013

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I do hope everything works out for you. Even if he doesn't see anything wrong in your marriage, maybe you can still suggest it.

Snehal - posted on 05/10/2013

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Thanks Qui for your reply..but to answer you.he is not kind of guy who sees this sinking down as like me.. for him..everything is ok bcoz everything is as per him.. even if i talk to him..he has such super skills that at the end of conversation he makes me look like it was all my fault..or stupid thought..
I some time thing..i m like this only after 5 yrs..i dont know how will things go for life long.. its not like i dont have any freedom..i have my financial side completely safe..we don't share finances much.. that is also reason of arguments. Sometimes i think he marrying me was a compromise..in return he was getting maintenance free (as i take care of my most of expenses) finance dependent wife..it was not a bad deal for him at all..
But i also tend to think that not everyone gets everything...may b this is life and marriage is all about adjustment but why is it one-sided.

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