Binal - posted on 10/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
We just moved from townhouse to new bigger house couple months ago with my husband,9 and 8 years old daughters. My old neighborhood was so friendly and filled with so many nice family , my girls had so many friends to play with. It was like old days where you raise whole neighborhood together, kids runs in and out each others door all the time. Played outside from dusk to dawn fearlessly.. All the kids were so welcoming that they made all new neighbors feel welcomed all the time. I never wanted to leave that house but we were running out the space in the house.
Now we are at new place which is not far from my old house and it is nice 8 houses block with bunch of boys and 4 girls at same age. Five families are so close that their children and even parents are always at each other house or front yard. All the kids always play outside and runs to each other house all the time. When we first moved in ,girls in new neighborhood came to my house to welcome us and took my girls to play which I loved because I was so nervous to left such a cuddly neighborhood, everything was fine untill the third day when my 9 year old said something innocently to those two girls( my 9 year old wanted to play many things which those two girls denided so she said to those girls "you guys don't like to play anything?") which made those tow girls affened and they started to cry and slammed the door at my kids. My girls came home very sad abd guilty feeling, my older daughter tolm me that she did not wanted to hurt their feelings but she just said it..... My girls tried to patch up many times by saying "hi" or asking them to play with them but now those girls not talking to them and also ignoring very badly. They also told every kids in neighborhood what happen and new girls are so mean, don't talk to them ect.... Now we are at that situation where nobody wants to be a friend with my two girls. Even my girls join the group when they play outside in the street they all would start running from them and whispers in each other ears.. It's making very tough for me to see my kids excluded from such a nice place. I tried to talk to one of the mother but she seems to be careless because all her children have their buddies..
My girls want to go back and think nobody likes them here. I am always giving them positive energy by saying everything takes time but it's just getting worse. Even I started to feel very guilty for my kids to drag them in this situation. Please help how to handle this situation? Should we go back? Or let the girl learn new lession of the life? I just don't want them to loose their confidence at this age..... Please help !