Need help!!! My son is 11 months old and always slept all night but for the past month he wakes up at least 4 times a night and I have to rock him all the way back to sleep. I've tried to let him cry it out but he screams so hard he can't breathe! How can I get him to go to sleep without me rocking him???

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Neva - posted on 10/28/2011

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Children this age start waking and crying again because they have jumped to a new developmental stage. Prior to this stage when you were out of site you were out of mind. They would cry and you would come and they were happy to see you, but when you left, they forgot that you existed. Now they know that you exist even if they can't see you. All children (adults, too) wake up during the night, we go back to sleep and don't remember that we woke up. Your child is now waking up, knows that you exist in the house and doesn't know how to put himself back to sleep without you. Wait to go to him until he is crying hard, not just at the first sound you hear from him. Then go to him, lay him down and say night night. You might want to sit on the floor in his room. After the first time you say night night, and he stands in his crib and screams, simply get up, lay him back down and then go sit back down again without talking to him or really looking at him. Continue to do this. Sit in his room. Look at the floor, only go and lay him back down when he starts crying hard. This may take a while the first night, but it will be worth it in the long run. If you give in and feed him, rock him, etc., he will think that he needs these things in order to go to sleep and the process will be at least twice as long the next time. He will eventually see that he can put himself back to sleep and not call out every time he rolls over and wakes a bit. So the process is to wait until he's crying, not just squirming or grunting because he might go back to sleep if you don't go to soon. Tell him night night and lay him down. Sit on the floor of his room without looking or talking to him. Every time he stands and starts crying, get up and lay him back down without talking or engaging him. He will soon be sleeping through again.

Amy - posted on 10/27/2011

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Is he teething he may just be in a lot of pain! My daughter was like this when she had teeth coming in and nothing but us holding her offered any comfort.

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Kim - posted on 10/27/2011

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No more teeth coming yet and he never took to a blanket or toy so he doesn't sleep with anything. I could try putting a little stuffed animal in there with him and see if it helps tonight.

Sharlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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Hi .you dont probably dont think anymore teeth are through? does he have a favorite toy or securoty blanket just to probably cuddle up to.

Kim - posted on 10/27/2011

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I've tried talking to him patting his back and singing to him and it calms him for a second but then he starts screaming even harder so I end up picking him up. He already has 5 teeth and he never was up all night with any of his other teeth coming in and he really doesn't seem like he is hurting at all. But he is def kicking my butt I feel like I have not had a good night sleep in forever!!

Sharlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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Hi It sound like he might be having bad mightmares of a night.Try going into him for 5/10 mins and then calm him by talking softly and touching by either patting him on the back or playing with his hair and try to comfort him does he take a soft toy and and if you have a touch lamp nothing to bright just low so if he does wake up he can see his surroundings and then hopefully he should settle down back to sleep.

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