need help putting two-week old son to sleep

Joy - posted on 09/10/2013 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I've read almost everywhere that nursing to sleep is a no-no. I breastfeed for amost 40mins (and my milk supply is pretty well established.. with heavy letdown. Baby has gained a pound from his birthweight, and has 6-8 wet diapers a day), burp him, then he hiccups for a bit, sometimes spits, settles down sometimes but sometimes becomes fuzzy, then i change his diaper, and try to rock him to sleep. But then he roots again and cries frantically and as soon as i latch him back on he sucks like he's been starved for hours. Seems like nursing him to sleep is all that works. Last night he fed on and off from 10pm to 3 am. We tried to let him cry himself to sleep but after 20 mins of rooting while crying i picked him up, he fed for a few minutes then he was knocked out. Can anyone please help? I am terrified, clueless, confused.

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Shauna - posted on 09/10/2013

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I Tell You What I Did With My Niece. She Was Frantic, Tired, And Exhausted.So, What I Did? She Had The Same Issues As You.uk Would Take A Warm Water Bottle, Not To Hot And Wrapped A Towel Around It. Next I Put a Shirt Around It With Milkstains On It And Laid My Little Niece, Cozy Side Up. The I Have Her A Bottle Of Breastmilk Nuk Nipples Are The Best! At First She Wasn't Having It, But After I Cleaned My Hands And Rubbed Warm Breastmilk On The Nipple, Boy, Did She Go To Town!. My Niece Loved Me Forever That Day Because The Baby Slept For 3 Hours. Full, Content, Warm And Satisfied. Don't Get The Water Bottle To Hot Though? Touch It To The Inside Of Your Wrist. If Your Wrist Turns Red? Too Hot. See All The Baby Is Looking For Is Comfort And Soothing. Also At This Point A Light Darkened Room And Soft Music Will Help A Lot! Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2013

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At 2 wks old I would not worry about nursing him to sleep. Most newborns nurse to sleep that is normal. Also at 2 wks he may cluster feed a lot. Once babies get to be around 3-4 months they start to establish more of a awake and nap schedule and that is when I would start to not nurse to sleep. For the first 1-2 months babies will nurse frequently with sleep much of the time inbetween feedings. As they get closer to that 3-4 month age they tend to settle into more of a napping routine. Taking a morning, afternoon, and sometimes a short nap in the early evening. They are awake much of the time between those naps and are also eating more on a regular schedule (EX: every 3 hrs). This is when getting into a pattern or how you want to put him to sleep might work better.

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Ashley - posted on 09/13/2013

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I nurse my 10 week old to sleep all the time. Who cares if people say it's wrong. I love the bond that nursing gives us and he is comforted by nursing and peacefully sleeps!

M - posted on 09/12/2013

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Hey there. At two weeks, I know it's difficult to get any sleep at night. Here is what worked for my son though every baby is different. I would nurse him on one side, change his diaper, swaddle him super tight, and then nurse him on the other until he fell asleep. I wouldn't worry about nursing him to sleep at this age. I think the problems start when your baby is older is cant sleep any other way. I have a two year old and a 7 month old who both sleep 12 hours at night. I'm very lucky though it took a lot of rough nights to get here. Now at nap time, I just lay them in their cribs and they fall asleep. Teaching them to self-sooth when they are older is the key but at two weeks, they don't now how and they need you to help them. That is why, in my opinion, nursing is wonderful. :). Once your little one is older, can start laying him down when he is tired, he will learn to sleep on his own.

Kim - posted on 09/12/2013

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I agree with all of these posts!! Most of all just remember these first few months can be hard, but try to enjoy them as much as possible!! They go by way to quick! My twin girls are 15 months and it seems like yesterday when we were going through these same things x 2!! Luckily they were my 4th and 5th child so I savored every moment of that rocking and cuddling!!

Dana - posted on 09/12/2013

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Hi Cindy! I'm wondering why you're trying to detach your son from his blanket at night? Two seems so young. It seems harmless enough if he finds it comforting. I'm just curious what your experience has been, since my son is only 5 months old, so this is all ahead of us! :) Thanks!

Cindy - posted on 09/11/2013

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Letting him cuddle to those nice thick blankets did the trick for my son at night. The warmth of the blanket milk and rocking will do the trick. Only bad thing is im still trying to take my sons baby blanket away at night hes 2 now lol.

Though a lot of older moms tell you to let them cry so they learn to self sooth I think baby is a bit too young though its also good to let them.know you wont always come if they cry for attention.

Have you tried pumping? I used to pump and then feed my son and at night id give him a little more and snuggle him up in his blanket and just rocked him.

Ana - posted on 09/11/2013

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He's growing. He wants lots of breast milk. So give it to him.

A baby has got to eat sleep and grow.

Both my girls went to sleep on the breast.. so what..it only last for so long anyway, you get rest and they get milk and rest after..

When my babies were that small, I just wrapped them in a blanket and rocked them to sleep for naps and at night.

Jen - posted on 09/11/2013

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Crying it out (crying to sleep) shouldn't be used for babies under 6 months (4 months if you're desperate). Before then, babies need to be comforted and fed often (my baby was a cluster feeder too). You can practice putting your newborn down sleepy but awake, but ultimately will have to help them to sleep if they don't learn to fall asleep in their own. Every baby is different, some pick it up easier than others. I had to do CIO with my son when he was 6 months, because he was waking up every 1-2 hours all night long. If you need a break, you can pump some milk and have your husband feed your little one with a bottle.
Also, try to get him on a pacifier. My baby didn't like pacifiers but finally took a Soothie, which was AWESOME for a while until he didn't want it anymore.

Dana - posted on 09/11/2013

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My experience has been similar to Sarah Hofland's. For the first several weeks baby hardly slept in his crib. I'd hold him in my arms sitting on an arm chair, feet on ottoman and pillows under my arms so that I could doze of, and he could nurse, yet he was secure. Not as safe as in his crib, but better than dropping him bc of falling asleep while nursing! (which never happened but I had a close call). As the months went by he developed a better schedule on his own. I still nurse him to sleep but then he'll sleep several hours in the crib and takes a few naps a day (often in my arms but if I were more diligent about putting him in the crib during the day he'll get more used to it). The point is, do what works for now so that baby is safe, fed, and you both can sleep! It'll get easier. Enjoy cuddle with your little one. They grow so fast!!

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Don't let people scare you about nursing to sleep at such a young age. It is OK to nurse a newborn to sleep (or rock or whatever!). You CANNOT spoil a newborn. Take it from a mom who nursed her newborn to sleep (and coslept and did CIO at 6 mo) - you can't spoil them at that age!! My dd is 2.5 now (we only recently stopped nursing) and she is a great sleeper. No worries... just do what comes naturally and you will make it through too :) xoxo

Emily - posted on 09/11/2013

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I have a 5 month old and from day one I have nursed him to sleep. It's just what seems natural. Things will get better, I found the first three weeks were simply survival mode as far as trying to get any sleep and recover. But by one month he started sleeping for longer stretches.

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2013

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The first is hard.....you want to do everything right, but you don't always know what that is. Don't worry you are going to make mistakes, but the good thing is is that they can be fixed. I rocked my oldest to sleep every night. By time he was 18 months and too big to lay down without waking up and having to start over I realized that maybe rocking to sleep every night was not a smart idea. A few nights of crying and the problem was fixed. He is now 15 yrs old and those few nights of crying has not scarred him ;).

My second....I was too worried about starting bad habits so was too focused on making sure we did not start anything. I pretty much did a 180 and went too far the other way. She was also the first one I nursed.....She would eat about every hr around the clock. For a week or so she started waking every 1/2 hr. I remember my husband asking if she was hungry.....I gave him a look that could kill. For one, how would I know if she was hungry or not....you watched me feed her so what is your guess. For two, I Just feed her....how could she be hungry that fast!

My third.....I realized that they grow SO fast and to just enjoy the moment. For the first couple of months we would nap in the afternoon together on the couch.....her laying on my chest. I knew I would need to transition her into her bed for naps, but I also knew that it was ok to not do that right away. I have learned to savor the moments and enjoy them.

Dove - posted on 09/10/2013

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There is absolutely nothing in the world wrong with nursing your baby to sleep. All of my children nursed to sleep for over a year. It is 100% normal and natural.

Joy - posted on 09/10/2013

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Thank you Sarah. Your response eased a bit of the worry off. It's so hard to figure out what to do and what not to do. People have varying opinions/experiences and no two babies are the same so having an idea of when to expect things to happen or when the proper sleep training has to start surely helps a lot. Yes he's been cluster feeding too so aside from the sore nipples and the exhaustion of feeding nonstop, worrying that I am doibg something wrong adds to the stress of it all.

Joy - posted on 09/10/2013

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Thanks for the tip Faye. We want to put off bottle feeding until much later. Dad does help by rocking baby to sleep but in the end, regardless of who carries him, even when he's just in the bouncing seat, he roots and when he doesn't get the feed he cries frantically. We tried the pacifier but he spits it out and cries even harder as if saying we cannot fool him with just a binkie.

Faye - posted on 09/10/2013

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Have dad/partner rock him to sleep after he nurses. Or have them give him a bottle that last feeding of breastmilk. He smells the milk on you and knows that you are there for his needs (if that makes sense). BUT he is just two weeks old, so give it time.

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