NEED HELP!! should I split with the father of our son or try and make it work?

Gemma - posted on 06/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Please Help!!! I have been with my partner for over 4 yrs now, and I am so stuck and confused I just need some advice from other mums! We have had a rocky time, there's been cheating by him nearly every year, the last one was just over a yr ago, not physical but messages and things, he has also beat my dad up in the past and we've bee to court and things so not good.. anyway we have stayed at it for the sake of our son, and have enjoyed the good with the bad. My probem now is.. i have had an awful yr, depression and then currently an ongoing illness, when I was in hospital I realised we had grown apart, we didn't talk and don't have much in common. We're very different people and I wonder if we'd be happier with someone else. I've felt like this for weeks now on and off, i've tried to tell him and we're currently on a break but its very hard because i still love him and care for him, but its the future that scares me.. i cant see us getting married, or having more kids... im scared of him hurting me again and me being vulnerable.. I just don't know what to do i have until thursday to decide whether to stay or split.. every time we tal about it he says he loves me more than anything and he has proved he wont betray my trust and he never will.. i don't know what to do.

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Gemma - posted on 06/18/2013

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Thanks for your reply, the first time was when i was pregnant, and i found pics on his phone but i felt so vulnerable i didnt confront him about it until months later..

The thing is he says he's matured now and changed, which is true in a sense he was only 18 when we got together.. I just don't know :S

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2013

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I'd have kicked him out and filed for custody and support after the first infidelity, but that's me.

He's not proven anything to you, dear, because he continues to stray. You have to make the best decision for your well being as well as that of your child. Good luck

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