Lisa - posted on 12/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi! I need advice for surviving a week long stay at my in-laws house. My daughter is 1 year old and is still crawling. My MIL is physically disabled and almost totally dependent on my FIL. Their house is filthy because my FIL doesn't have the energy to keep up with cleaning. Typically, there are pills laying all over the floor, dog food spilled, dirty water, etc. If I have refused to take my shoes off while visiting, I certainly don't want my baby crawling on their floors. They watch inappropriate television and use terrible language. They constantly raise their voices in arguments. Their dog never stops barking barking and it scares my daughter. Fortunately, we only visit a few times a year because we live out of the area. My husband shares my concerns but doesn't enforce our preferences strongly enough when around them. If I keep bringing up the conversation, it triggers arguments between us. He would absolutely refuse to stay in a hotel, even if we could afford one. We do help with the cleaning, but its never enough and my daughter will not tolerate sitting on our laps for too long. I can take her into a different room, but I don't have it in me to be anti-social when they see their only grandchild so little. So what can I do to make our trip more enjoyable? Thank you in advance for your help!