Need help to deal with no. 2s

Debbie - posted on 07/26/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I really could do with some advice about my three year old son. He's quite good at using the loo to do a wee but when it comes to doing a poo he always goes in his pants. Its really getting to me and sometimes I shout at him for doing it and I know this doesn't help. We got him to wee on the loo by giving him a chocolate button everytime he had a wee on the loo. He has never had a poo on the loo so I can't give him a treat for doing so. Any tips will help.

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Ewa - posted on 07/27/2011

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I have this same problem with my 2 years old girl. I tyold her if learn how to use loo all the time she will go to nursery (she really wants to go there) and it helps Slowely shes getting better

Heather - posted on 07/26/2011

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I JUST got my 3 year old, almost 4, to regularly go on the potty. Sometimes it is just a communication problem, and my son told me once, "Mom, I feel bubbles in my butt!" Ever since, I've been able to talk to him about running to the potty when he feels "bubbles in his butt!" :) When I first started to actively try to get him out of diapers, we had screaming/crying matches over just SITTING on the potty. I got him a sticker potty chart, and every time he went pee he got to put a sticker on the chart. I got chocolate treats, and I told him that every time he even SAT on the potty, I would give him ONE treat. IF he did actually poo, I'd give him two treats. Once he realized he'd get a treat for even just TRYING, he was sitting the potty once every hour! Now, about a month later, he'd had one accident in the past week, and remembers to ask for a treat for going poo in the potty maybe every other time - it is just becomming habit! YIPEE! Hope this helps! The one thing that helped me was my friend telling me she did not digress back to diapers. She left her son in underwear, and just accepted that she'd be washing out underwear for as long as it took. She said it took her son 3 months, once I buttoned down (my son was older), it only took about 2 weeks before it was so much better!

Sam - posted on 07/26/2011

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Okay this might sound kind of mean but it worked. My daughter was turning 3 in like two days and she never pooped on the toilet only in her pants and the thing that got to me was she knew that she should use the toilet. I tried EVERYTHING to get her to go and then right before her birthday I told her that she would have to start pooping on the toilet if she wanted her birthday party, mean I know but she started going on the can that day!

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My oldest daughter didn't figure out how to poo in the potty until she was 4 1/2. She was peeing in the potty since between 2 1/2 and 3 yo. We tried to get her on the potty every hour for her to poo. We eventually gave her a really big incentive to poo. If she did she would get a bike, which she wanted since her 4th birthday. She had to poo in the potty for a month (not consecutive days) before getting her bike. Now she is trying to help her 2 yo sister to go pee in the potty.

Lynn - posted on 07/27/2011

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When my 19 year old Godson was that age, he was afraid of the toilet because his dad had let him see "Jurassic Park" and that guy gets eaten by the dinosaur while on the portapotty! Anyway, my best friend was so frustrated, she finally gave him a laxative, and made him sit on the toilet until he finally pooped! After he did it once and nothing bad happened, he stopped being afraid, got a candy as a reward, and he really did well after that!

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Debbie - posted on 08/11/2011

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I'm so happy, I have to tell everyone. Addison asked to and had a poo on the loo! Yesterday He had one in his pants and one on the kitchen floor and I didn't think this day would come. thank you all for the advice and tips x

Suzi - posted on 07/27/2011

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My son would follow me to the loo and he had his own potty... We would be there together... I would read a book with him and he would eventually poo.. You have to know when it seems right .. Never punish -- potty training is NOT the time...he will get it -- they are learning so takes time.
As he got older to keep him sitting there I would teach him to count in Spanish or sing a song...it worked great. Hope that helps! ;)

Ellie - posted on 07/27/2011

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im having the same with my five (will be six in jan) year old, i really feel for you and know the feeling, although we are getting marshall checked for medical conditions as it happens several times a day. how ever my now 8 year old we could more or less time him and get him on the potty or toilet at about right time (yea had accastion accidents) does he go about the same time off day or does it vary

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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It really is not a magic trick. It takes them so much longer to poop on the toilet than learn to pee. It is such a different feeling. One possible way, is to stop using diapers (if you are) and just use underwear. Diapers give a different feeling than the underwear, and it makes it more uncomfortable. Like I said, it just takes them a lot longer. Don't push the issue to much, and if you are ok with it, just let him keep pooping in his pants until he is ready. Bring him into the bathroom when you use it and show him it is ok.

My son, once he learned to poop in the toilet, reverted back to pooping in his pants like 3 months after he was pooping in the toilet regularly. Then, once he started using the toilet again, he never pooped his pants again. Just expect that to happen. Apparently it is really common.

Karen - posted on 07/27/2011

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I can sympathise with your problem - I had exactly the same issue with my son. Finally by the age of 4 he was able to poo in the loo. We tried the potty with only minimal success and we had various accidents in his pants whilst out at different places. I too am guilty for yelling a bit about it and in hindsight now that was so wrong. I shouldn't have listened to everyone around me saying that he "should be doing it by now". There was nothing wrong with my child. In the end my husband said to him that if he doesn't start doing it in the loo that we will have to take him to the children's hospital where they have a special doctor who will teach him to use the bathroom properly and my husband also said that he and I weren't able to stay for that appointment. My husband left for work straight after and within an hour my son had used the loo to do a poo. It was a terrible lie but it was our last resort and it worked!!!

Melissa - posted on 07/26/2011

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my sons daycare did m&ms 1 for peeing and little dum dum suckers for pooping. Well with the different diapers and 9 months of trying nothing worked, finally we let him pee and poop in his underwear and that finally worked for me. He was potty trained in 2 weeks!

Jenny - posted on 07/26/2011

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I'm having the same issues with pooping, my son only goes in a diaper...He is doing great with potty and wears underwear most of the time. After a few days of not going #2, he'll get to the point where he's visibly uncomfortable, needs to go, so I'll put him in a diaper so he won't feel sick to his stomach...He did have a poo accident in his undies one time, and i thought that might prompt him to want to go on the potty, but it didn't. I'm just going to keep putting him on, encouraging him...I might try the potty book idea, my hubby tried having him watch a cartoon on his iPhone so he'd relax, I've tried reading to him, giving him privacy, etc

Jennifer - posted on 07/26/2011

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My daughter didn't like sitting on the pot long enough to go. So, I took her to the store and let her pick out a book. It was her potty book, and was only allowed to look at it while sitting on the potty. It was even one of those sticker books, so she could play with the stickers. It got her attention enough to keep her sitting still.

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