Charlotte - posted on 04/27/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )
We met 10 years ago and fell in love almost 5 years ago. We got together 4 years ago after my marriage to my violent ex-hubby ended and my twin daughters were 18 months. He loved them like his own and they always called him "Daddy". We had a son togther 3 years ago who is the apple of his daddy's eye. My man is The One for me. We were happy and fine until 1 week ago. My man wants us to break up because we aren't made to live together according to him. For 6 days I cried and tried to understand why as he wouldn't say any more about it. Then I realised maybe I had been being a bit selfish lately and so I made a list of promises to be a better partener to him but he still hesitated. And now he's determined that we are to split up. I am a sahm, english and we live in France in the same town as his parents but I have no friends of my own here and no family. I don't want to become a single mother of 3 kids totally alone. I can't believe he can just abandon me and the 3 kids like that without a single regret! No reason either!I have promised to do all I can to make him happy. I can't believe it's him talking, he's suddenly changed, he's not the same. He accuses me of manipulating him and of lying. He said, with a tear in his eye that he wanted us to still be a couple but not live together, 5 mins later he said he didn't say that! I think he's not right in the head. Mental illness runs in his familly and before we got together he went through a deprassion and suffered from paranoia for 2 years. He always said that I helped him get over that. And now he's going.I'm hurting so much and I don't know what to do! I can't sleep, I can't eat! I can't believe what's happening! Last week we were fine! And our split, when he gets started of the practical side is gona take a few months but he refuses to stay with his parents so it's just dragging out my suffering and that of the kids!I feel as if me and the kids are being punished but god only know what we've done to deserve it!
Please if anyone has any advise to help me through this. I am desperate!