Need help w/ daddy daughter bonding

Charlotte - posted on 12/22/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Lately I've noticed that my husband and our first daughter (Aubriella) haven't been getting along that well. He took her and her brothers fishing and said she was a pain. He said all she did was whine and complain and state how bored she was. He took her on a daddy daughter day and he said she got on her knees and PRAYED for the day to be over. When he tucked her in last night, she threw a huge tantrum until I stepped in. She's always trying to shoo him out the door for work, even on his day off. I can see that it hurts him, but I don't know what to do, any thoughts or ideas on how to fix this?

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Michelle - posted on 12/22/2015

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Have you sat down with her and asked why she acts that way?
We don't know what's going through her mind but hopefully she will give you a reason. Don't start off with it sounding like you are telling her off though, you need her to open up to you. Ask her what has change with her relationship with her Dad and why she doesn't want to spend time with him.
Be prepared to actually listen to her answer though. Make sure she knows her feeling are valid and that you will help her find a solution for both of them.

Sarah - posted on 12/22/2015

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According to your profile she is five and you have seven children including 3 sets of twins? It isn't unusual for a 5yo girl to prefer the company of the same gender parent, however her whining, tantrums and getting on her knees to beg to be done with "daddy/daughter day" is unacceptable. You stepping in when she pitches a fit, is only going perpetuate the behavior. Let him handle it and discipline her. If she doesn't enjoy fishing, fine, she can sit a read a book.

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Michelle - posted on 12/22/2015

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I thought you were talking about an older child, yes it's normal for a 5yo to have attitude. You do need to keep the communication open though. You can still ask her why she is being like that to Daddy.

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