Julie - posted on 06/01/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I'm not a Mom, just a very concerned Aunt.
My niece is 14, she has major self esteem problems. Her parents are divorced, her mother has pretty much washed her hands of her and her father just doesnt know how to be a Dad. My parents have taken her into their home and my younger brother (her uncle) and his wife have taken her under their wing.
The problem is as far as I can tell is she has very low self esteem. She seems to be looking for the love and attention from the wrong places since she did not get the love and attention that she needed from her Mother and Father. She was put to the side with them. My parents (her grandparents) have let her live with them off and on for the past 3 years and they only want to see her happy, as do I and her other Aunts and Uncles.
The problem is my sister in law found out that our niece has gotten ahold of an old phone and has been able somehow to enable a free text messg application even though there is not any service on it. They got the phone from her today and went thru the text messgs and found pictures of her in bikini's and talking about elicit sex with other boys that are between the ages of 16-18. Apparently even a 28 year old man (who we are in the process of finding out exacty who this person is).
We are at a loss as to how to proceed with the issues at hand. And I personally am very worried about her going down the wrong path and becomming a teen mom like her mother was.
So I guess my question is, How do we help her get on a better path?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.