Ellie - posted on 03/28/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
I'm hoping this is the right place to get help disciplining my defiant almost 4 year old step son.
Every day from the moment we wake up , till the moment he goes to sleep it is a consent battle that we never win.
At at meals he needs to stay in a strapped booster seat or he will run away we have tried teaching him but thinks it's funny , he eats some and throws food all over the place he also will not use a fork or spoon .
When were not eating ever 5 minutes i'm telling him not to hit my daughter his older step sibling who is almost 7. ( There almost the same size he's big she's small for her age). If he's not hitting he's biting,spitting,pulling hair ,scratching,jumping on , calling names, throwing things at her and us.
We have tried correcting it with teaching him empathy.. he will laugh at us and hit us again.
Time out don't work he screams bloody murder getting us noise complaints our doctor said let him scream it out ... that lasted 2 hours we gave up.
We were told by a behavioral program that quiet bedroom time instead of time out will help with his door shut. We tried he freaks out hits and kicks the door , leave the door open he will scream at the door crack.
Daycare is about ready to kick him out , jk will not take him next year and i cannot seem to correct this defiance. I've been trying for 2 years with no success. The doctors think that he has adhd and odd but will not medicate him until he is in grade 1. HE wont even be able to start school because he refuses to potty train he will come out of his room smile and say Mom i messed in my pants clean it up . I have tried to make himself clean it up and it didn't faze him in the slightest.
Please help me i'm so loss and i'm getting tired of living every day in a consent battle!