Lori - posted on 01/13/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I was not the disciplinarian and I was the "friend" more than the Mom i assume. Her dad left us when she was 3 and I was not the type of mom to take her daughter away from her dad so I stayed here. My family are in other states. She did live with me...and I decided to move us to florida to be with my family when she was 9..i got her dads blessing etc....well, she wasn't happy in florida and hated the school there. we came back to visit and she begged me to stay with her dad for the rest of the school year. I hesitantly agreed. She was going to resume living with me when i moved back here. Well as i'm sure you all know, that didn't happen. She loved her school at dad's and wanted to stay there. Now the rolls ar reversed and I'm gettng her ever other weekend. It sucks. Now at age 12 her stepmoms parents bought a huge piece of land with a large house on it and a big horse barn. bet you know where this is going...yes he bought her horses. FORGET IT! I'll never get her back. I feel like it all my fault, i shouldn't have taken her to florida in the first place. Her attitude towards me is terrible, we fight so much. Ill give you an example...i texted her Hi "Nicole" and she text bck. What do you want?"
I said "nothing, why do you talk to me that way?" she said, "i didn't do anything..if I don't talk to you for awhile its because i'm busy (with the horses etc.) and if I don't, I don't. I'm not a little kid anymore. This breaks my heart. Then I said, you are my only daughter..aren't I allowed to say hi..her text said "1. I didn't say that 2. is not my problem you only had one child so don't say that everytime I say something." Now you have to understand, my daughter truly is a good kid. Very polite and caring. But her atttude is terrible. She said she gets it from me. and I do believe that. I just don't know what to do anymore, I think i know that I need to change the way i am with her and remember that she is a 12 year old pre teen with than attude and doesn't want to be bothered by her parents. When she's here with me, i knock on her door and she says "What!??" and doesn't want to be bothered. Please give me some advise!!!??