Need help with my 17-year old daughter

Rob - posted on 03/15/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone. I know this is community blog is for moms, but after finding it...I joined it anyway because I so appreciated reading the accounts of some of you who are struggling with your teenage daughter. I am a single, divorced dad. My youngest daughter has lived with me the past 2 years. Previously she lived with her mom for 7 years after my ex-wife and my divorce. When she wanted to come live with me I was overjoyed. I happily took her in my home. But since she moved in, it has been nothing but battle after battle. I found out afterwards that she wanted to come live with me because she couldn't handle my ex-wife's rules and their strict atmosphere. When she first moved in, I gave her a fair amount of freedom and she abused it by partying, drinking, sleeping with her boyfriend etc., all behind my back. I am ridden with guilt for having been so naive'. When I found out, I cracked down and became much stricter, also holding her accountable for her behavior, which she hates. I have heard, "I hate you...I've always hated you"; "You're the worst parent in the world" and that she's moving out when she's 18 (she will still be a senior in high school when she's 18). She defies me, she yells at me, she is passive-aggressive, and I can't trust her one bit. Last night, she ran away to her friend's home but I didn't have a clue where she was, so I called the sheriff's department and they went out looking for her and found her and brought her back in the police car, when she was embarrassed by. I could use some perspective from a mom's point of view. Thanks for letting me talk!

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Rob - posted on 03/16/2016

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Thanks Raye. Sometimes one just needs to be reminded to "Stay the Course." Appreciate your encouragement!

Raye - posted on 03/16/2016

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If your kids don't say they hate you at some point, you're probably not doing your job as a parent. Keep trying to hold her to rules and have consequences for breaking them. When she's 18, she is legally an adult, and can move if she pleases. But she will find out that life is hard out in the real world. Seems like a lesson she'll have to learn the hard way, then she may actually appreciate all she got from her parents. Stick to your guns. Don't let her rule the roost. Don't allow her to be disrespectful to you. Keep being a good dad and trying to teach her right and wrong. It'll work out.

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