Need help with my 3 year old. He is hitting and throwing fits.

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Holly - posted on 11/07/2012

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another thing that helped me was to tell my kids "Its perfectly acceptable to be angry, i get angry all the time, but i don't hit people just because i am angry"

Ariana - posted on 11/07/2012

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Is he doing this randomly or is there some situation that is going on that's upsetting him a lot? If he's constantly throwing fits over the same things you might want to see what's up and if there's something you can change about that. Usually kids throw fits when they're very frustrated and don't know how to express themselves.



There should be no hitting and if he decides to hit he should be put in a time-out for three minutes. I would explain to him that hitting is not allowed and he needs to use his words (when he's calm not in the midst of a tantrum).



Depending on the situation it may be best to just ignore his tantrums. If he's not getting anything from throwing the fit then he might stop. My son used to try to throw fits in restaurants and I would take him into the bathroom until he calmed down and back into the restaurant again. Sometimes they just can't handle their emotions, but it's up to you to teach him how to stay calm.



You can also try expressing how he's feeling for him if possible. So you can say, I can see you're REALLY angry/upset/tired/want that toy etc.



I would really give him time-outs for hitting you and ignore the fits as much as you can. If possible when he throws a fit go into another room or just act like he's not doing anything.

Holly - posted on 11/07/2012

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He is old enough to learn to use his words, and he is old enough to be explained to that hitting is NOT the solution to his problems. have you asked him WHY he is hitting? have you asked him what a better solution would be?

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