Need some advice!

Megan - posted on 08/17/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




Me and my fiancé just had an argument a few days ago and I would like to get opinions he wants to have anal sex and I don't . I told him for me it is very painful and we have tried before but it hurts so bad and is so uncomfortable I truly don't want to. I'll be honest we have had a lot to drink the few times we have tried it but I don't think I can get drunk enough to really do it because of the pain and discomfort I feel. I mean it really does not even feel good, but I love him from the bottom of my heart and totally enjoy having sex with him all the time and our sex life is great besides this thing he wants to try I would really like some help or advice if anyone else has ever been in my position, I mean is their anything I can do about the pain or for that matter the discomfort I mean it feels like I have to go to the bathroom when he uses just a finger! Uugghh I'm so sorry to be so forward but I really would like some options and not have to feel embarrassed about talking about it. And I also heard if he ejaculates inside it can cause blockage that I would have to go to the doctors for is this ture? Please dont juge me I just want honest and ture options!


Katherine - posted on 08/17/2012




If YOU'RE not comfortable, he should respect that. It IS painful.....lube helps, but not much. I'm an exit only kind of girl. I mean tell him you love him, but you just can't go there! Having to get drunk means it's NOT for you. I mean if you have to go to those limits, then don't do it. And don't feel pressured.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/17/2012




Well how much do you want to try it? Anal can be quite enjoyable once you get past the initial fear of it. I have a hard time with it also but will do it on very rare occassions. He will not "block you up" because of ejaculating inside of you. Don't worry about that, if anything it will lube! LOL. But speaking of lube, that is one thing you need, and a lot of it. Also, there is something called "anal ease" and it kinda numbs you to the pain but you can get all the enjoyment. He needs to go wicked slow, and just enter a little at a time. YOU set the pace. Good luck.

Corinne - posted on 08/17/2012




TBH, anal is something I enjoy (TMI, I know) BUT it is not for everybody. You should not have to suffer pain to please your man, that is soo wrong on all levels. Also, I've not heard of ejaculate causing blockages? I would imagine that would be caused by compacted poop which you might need a stool softener for.

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