Joshua - posted on 09/18/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hello I'd like to start off by pointing out here that I am not a mother or even a female for the matter of fact. I'm a 19 year old male who is in a really, really, upsetting, and troubled situation, and all I ask is for your honest advise and opinion because I really am having a hard time with my situation and finding ways to cope with it. I honestly don't know where else to go to seek advise... I've been with my, "now ex girlfriend" for 2 years and our relationship has had it's fear share of ups and downs. I do the best I can to truly make her happy and it honestly has shows in the relationship we once shared. She broke up with me about a week ago due to the fact that her mother keeps nagging her and practically suffocating her with the fact that she knows her daughter and I are sexually active. (I'm 19 as stated above, and her daughter is 18 turning 19 in less than a month.) her mother is clearly not okay with this news, which apparently makes her feel that it is "okay" to say rude and unnecessary comments to her daughter about us being sexually active. She has said things like we're going to have to get married and we're going to have to live together; which is making her daughter now feel as if she is "forced" to be in a relationship with me. I must remind you that this is all just because we're sexually active, and take this for inconsideration, if you must. (Her mother has known that she lost her virginity way before even knowing me.) so I honestly can't grasp how being sexually active with her daughter can be such a problem especially if we're both having safe sex and are the legal age to do so. With all this currently taking place her daughter now is telling me she doesn't want to be with me at ALL due to the fact she can't take her mother nagging her about this situation anymore. What baffles me is how she can be so willingly "okay" with all of this, instead of sitting down with her mother and having a serious talk about all of this. Especially when she has told me that she would still want to be with me as long as her mom didn't bother her about this anymore. So with all this being said I can't understand why she can't just talk to her mo, so we can go back to the wonderful relationship we were having, before her mom decided to stick her nose in places it didn't belong...
Thank you for your time.