Need to make the punishment fit the crime here a little help please

Schyla - posted on 05/19/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My three and five year old just tore my memory foam mattress topper apart with their teeth they were in my bed watching cartoons while I fixed dinner when I went to check on them 5 minutes later the sheet was off and the mattress edges had bite marks and HUGE chunks ripped out of it. I removed them from my room and put them both in time out they sat and giggled so I put their noses on the wall and they still just giggled so I got them ready for bed gave them a half of a PB&J and put them in their beds I told them that what they did was bad and why it was bad yet they just don't understand that they are in BIG trouble. Any suggestions?

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Jodi - posted on 05/20/2011

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I would be making my bedroom off limits for a while - the 3 year old may not understand, but I guarantee the 5 year old will understand the connection.

Letitia - posted on 05/19/2011

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Im not sure if it will work given the ages of your children, but in the past if my son has deliberately ruined something after letting him know that his behavior isnt acceptable, everytime he would ask for something whether it be a toy, book, ice cream i would tell him no as i have to keep that money i could have spent buying him something to replace the item he ruined. I think children for get certain things they have done very quicly and this way he would be reminded for as long as i thought was appropriate depend on the damage, it also taught him the value of things...I would also not alow cartoons in mums room for a while...good luck

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They ruined your mattress? Take their mattresses until you can manage to replace yours.

Of course, if they're anything like my kids... a 'camp out' on the floor would NOT be a punishment.... Hmm.... sorry, no clue, but I'd be super pissed.

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Schyla - posted on 05/20/2011

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Thanks everyone upon further inspection the Mattress topper is still sleep-able and we decided that they would just have to do without some of the fun things for awhile until we can replace it.

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2011

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I LOVE that site Ink. It makes me feel better when my kids ruin something - it always seems so trivial compared to some things on this site!!

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This site isn't going to fix your problem...but it might make you FEEL better...Try to count how much MONEY has to be spent to replace what these kids have destroyed...it made me feel better ! Great for a laugh when you are so mad you could cry.
http://www.shitmykidsruined.com/

Sarah - posted on 05/19/2011

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I think you did punish them by the time out and putting them to bed early. I understand you are angry, but you can't do anything about it and why hold a grudge against 2 very young children? Let it go, chances are they don't understand how upsetting this was for you and therefore don't feel guilty. If you insist on pursuing a punishment, I would sit down with them and talk to them, tell them it made you mad that they wrecked you belongings. Demand they apologize and let it go. They're small kids, not adults.

Katherine - posted on 05/19/2011

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I agree with Teresa, take their mattresses until you get another. It's called natural consequence and they won't like 'camping out' for long. They should also have to sell some of their things to replace it. I don't know if you have resale shops around you but we have a once upon a child that gives cash on the spot. Either that or have a garage sale.

Schyla - posted on 05/19/2011

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The Mattress is fine it was the topper (a 200 dollar topper we bought to help my husbands back) I ended up just making them go to sleep I'm not very happy and I like the idea of no more fun stuff for awhile to help them understand that what they did was bad and you can bet there will be no more cartoons period for awhile.

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