Need Ways to Stop Eating as Much and Being Self-Concious

Sakura - posted on 01/24/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am Sakura and I'm 12 years old. I have a serious over-eating problem and I need a way to stop it. I I am not over-weight; I weigh 91.4 pounds. However, I am extremely self-conscious and every time I over-eat I become really ashamed and sometimes cry myself to sleep. On a normal day, I will eat two scrambled eggs, grits, OR a bowl of cereal for breakfast. Then for lunch, I will eat a salad or some hummus and vegetables. After I get home I recently have been so hungry that I eat four bowls of cereal and some trail mix! Then I am forced to eat all of my dinner which I know is important so I'm not angry. After eating all of this I have an extreme stomachache. I really want to stop eating so much when I get home because I know it isn't healthy and I am afraid I will start to gain weight. I am not extremely active- I go to dancing for two and a half hours on Wednesdays and an hour and fifteen minutes on Thursdays but the rest of the week I don't have a chance to do much. I go to a magnet school so I am loaded with homework everyday. I don't have any friends and the only sibling I have is an 18-year old brother so I don't have anything active that I could do that would be fun at home. I have been trying to tell myself that I'm not over-weight so I shouldn't worry about losing weight so much but that doesn't work and the fact that I eat so much when I get home is a problem. Does anyone have any recommendations to help me not eat so much?

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Dove - posted on 01/24/2015

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No... but I do recommend you talk to your parents about seeking some counseling to empower you emotionally and help you to learn to make some friends to give you some emotional support to not be so self conscious.

Four bowls of cereal is certainly a lot at one sitting, but perhaps if you ate a bit more for breakfast and lunch you wouldn't be quite so hungry after school. Then again... all of my kids eat pretty much ALL the time. My oldest is a very active 13 year old girl who is about 5'2" and 109 pounds.

Sarah - posted on 01/24/2015

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You aren't eating that much if you look at the whole day. Your breakfast is very typical, your lunch is quite light. Perhaps if you had a more substantial lunch you would not come home hungry enough to eat 4 bowls of cereal. That is the only part I'd think about changing. If you cut that snack down you'll be hungry for dinner. Instead of just a salad or veggies and hummus, maybe add some lean meat, cheese, hard boiled egg or other protein to your lunch. Then when you get home you won't feel inclined to eat 4 bowls of cereal. You require at lest 2000 to 2200 hundred calories a day just to maintain your weight. That is not including the dancing you do that burns calories.
Dancing twice a week is a good amount of activity for someone so busy.
Is there a trusted adult you can talk with? Can you talk to your mother, school nurse or a teacher? You seem lonely and sad, at a time you should be enjoying yourself. I know that it can be hard to turn that voice in your head off, maybe talking with someone will help.

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Sakura - posted on 01/24/2015

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Thanks. It's going to be hard to try to talk to anyone because I am really shy and scared of people because I was bullied when I was in elementary school about my weight (most turned out to be baby fat that I have lost most of.) I don't have any friends because when I had a best friend, she would make fun of me. I find it really hard to talk to my mother about things like this because she tries to help but makes it extremely awkward. I appreciate the effort but it doesn't help. The school counselor scares me for reasons I have yet to figure out. My past may also have an impact on me because when I was 3 or 4 my dad walked out of my life completely. Thanks for the advice. It helped and I will work on trying to muster up the courage to talk with someone.

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