needing help plz

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone thank you for your time, does anyone know where i can go to change my sons last name, and what do i need to do, thank you very much, the reason towards this decision is because my sons father doesnt want to be in his life, and i dont want my son to have his last name no more, thank you any help would be appreciated

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Get an attorney. You will have to have the father consent to give up his rights over the child first. If you are no longer in contact with the father then it can still be done, it just takes a little longer. Depending on what state you live in you may have to have someone ie your husband willing to adopt him after his legal father's rights are terminated. EX. Alabama will not terminate a natural father's rights unless a 3rd party is willing to take over the role of father and adopt, it's called bastardization of a child here. Some states however will. I did this here in Al. It cost me 450.00 dollars. I had been giving quotes as high as 5000.00. Shop around and find a good deal.

Julie - posted on 12/06/2009

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when my cousin changed her two childrens last name to her husbands name they made her post an ad in the newspaper thats at his last known address this was by the court if he didnt respond then they would change it she had the same situation that was court ordered before they would change it that took about a month but that was few years ago you have to go to the court house to do this

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If the father is not on the birth certificate, then he was not claimed by his father from the beginning. Bureau of Vital Statistics should be enough to secure a name change, then change on Social Security after.

Lenny - posted on 12/04/2009

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Why change his name, it sounds as if the separation is permanent. Check with google or some other website for that info. Each state is different but you usually have to file a petition with the courts.

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2009

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thank you everyone for your help,his father isnt on the birth certificate, my son is only 3 so he doesnt know the difference

Katie - posted on 12/04/2009

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I am not trying to be argumentative .... but the local family law courthouse is definitely where you start. I legally changed my last name and have done a lot of investigating. The family law courthouse will have all the information you need and tell you exactly how to proceed. I do believe your son would still be entitled to his father's SSI, as long as you are ONLY changing his name .... regardless you need to do what YOU know is best for your son.

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Probably the Bureau of Vital Statistics, however, rethink this. Your child is entitled to social security benefits should something happen to his father. If there is another man that wants to legally adopt your son and change his name in that way, it can be done as well. Whether his father wants to be responsible or not, he is.

Katie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Often times you do need the father's consent. My husband wants to adopt my daughter, but we still have to get her bio dads consent, even though he has never been in her life. The laws vary from state to state, unfortunately it is not as simple as walking into your local Social Security office. You usually have to post a legal advertisement in the local paper as well. Anyhow the laws vary from state to state but if you call the local family court I am sure they would give you lots of info!

Marie - posted on 12/04/2009

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if dad never signed paper for birth certificate, you go to the Dept of Vital Records and request a name change for your child. i'm sure a fee is required

Calinda - posted on 12/04/2009

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i am in australia but here we have to go to a solicitor to do it through what they call depol.. u will need the fathers signature 2 say he doesn't mind either way and then he can go to your maiden name :) hope this helps.. but in any situations like this my opinion is always go straight 2 a legal reprasentative :) :)

Angie - posted on 12/04/2009

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How does your son feel about you changing his name. At this point, his father's name may be all he has of his father's. Don't act rashly, make sure this is something you want to do.

Tiffany - posted on 12/04/2009

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Hey Steph sometimes men can be sorry SOB's. Try your local family court or your office of vital records. Wish u the best.

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I would seek legal advice. The first consult with an attorney is usually free. This may be like an adoption where they run an ad in the paper for x number of weeks to allow 'dad' time to protest and if he doesnt respond it gets done without his consent. That is how my husband adopted my kids.

Jamie - posted on 12/04/2009

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I know in Ohio you have tp have the father's consent to do this. Someone I know was considering this since her first childs father is MIA and her husband helps care for her son but she can't and he refuses to allow her to do this.

Patricia - posted on 12/04/2009

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Or you might have to go to the county court house to change it and I also think that you need the fathers consent to change his name if the dads name is on the certificate.

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2009

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When I changed my son's all I had to do was take his birth certificate to a notary, his father and I signed the back and I filled in the name correction part on the back of the certificate and mailed it in. That only works if the child is five or under. Older than that you need file a name change with social security. For both process you need the father's consent. Without it you would have to go to court.

Yvonne - posted on 12/04/2009

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The courthouse is were ppl usually go to here in Iowa. Good Luck & Wish you Happy Holiday's P.S. "IT TAKE'S A REAL MAN TO BE CALLED A DAD" So It's his loss Your will GROW UP & His dad Will REGRET not wanting him in his life & by then it'll Be To Late.

Krista - posted on 12/04/2009

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I would assume that you would go to your local social security office to do this. However, you MAY need the father's consent to change his name from paternal to maternal. I can't be completely sure.



Call your local social security office and ask them what the process would be.

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