Needing ideas for my almost 6yr old to stop peeing her pants

Nikki - posted on 11/10/2011 ( 40 moms have responded )

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My youngest daughter will be 6 in feb and she is still having accidents during the day. At night she does awesome but during the day I am finding she is coming home with wet clothes from peeing in them...I have tried several different ideas and I am wondering if anyone has anymore ideas that I might try? I also expecting on my 3rd daughter in late dec and I would love for my youngest to stop peeing her pants before baby comes. Can anyone help me?

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Melanie - posted on 12/13/2012

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Hi my little girl is 6 years an she is peeing on herself everyday at school and sometimes when she is home . Ive tryed everything i can thank of. Now the school is calling and given me a hard time about it . i have even took her to the doctor over this ! Cant anyone help me with this ? i wanna help my Serenity to be a big girl !!!!

Sarah - posted on 01/09/2013

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Any luck??? I am having the same problem and I am at my wits end!! We have taken her to the pediatrician, urologist, and phychologist multiple times had her tested over and over again for everything physical and mental that it could be. Everytime we go they all say she is fine mentally and physically.
So WTF is it???? She just pees herself daily and doesn't even seem to care!! The school is now concerned too, and I'm worried we are somehow going to get into trouble because of it. She just doesn't want to stop what she is doing and use the toilet and she won't tell anyone when she pees herself. She just sits in it till someone notices she smells and makes her go change.

Nerida - posted on 11/11/2011

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Similar problem with my 6 y/o. We seemed to have turned a corner recently (2 weeks without an accident!). I think it has just clicked with her, but we have spent a lot of time during the last month talking about making good decisions and thinking about the consequences of our decisions (hopefully before we make them) - this has helped with her behaviour in general, perhaps it's something you can try. I empathise with you, an extremely frustrating time - hang in there!

Stephanie - posted on 11/16/2011

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I have also had the same problem with my daughter who is about to turn 6. After going to her doctor to make sure she didn't have a bladder infection, I started using a punishment/reward system. If she has an accident, she then has to wear pull ups like a baby. If she has no accidents, she is rewarded. You can work out your own reward system. This has seemed to work for me.

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I am so sorry! I think your 6 year old, may have been molested or has emotional problems. She should be "mortified" when she has "accidents". I think you may have a "deeper" issue here. What ideas have you tried??? You aren't very specific. I would talk to her pediatrician. I am so sorry to say this, but there may be a "deeper" problem. :-(

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Jamie - posted on 08/10/2014

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My daughter (age 5) is great during the day besides her little "potty dances" in which I notice her doing it and send her to the bathroom but at night will not stop peeing her bed. I'm thinking the "I'm wet" alarm isn't going off because she sleeps so soundly and yes we cut her off of drinks after 6pm and bedtime is 9pm. We are doing the pull ups at night right now which she doesn't mind wearing (a little frustrating for me and daddy because we feel like we are going backwards diapers wise) but plan on going to the doctor very soon to see how we can overcome this. I know it's irritating but I've been reading a few of the comments from others on here and please don't assume your child has "deep issues" or has had her innocence taken away. That's so extreme and a disgusting non classy thing to say unless your truly in an environment or situation where that could be possible in which you should seek authority help not the Internet. Good luck Mama!!!

Nikki - posted on 01/09/2013

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Hello I completely understand your frustration. I was there and am still there but not as bad coz I think we are on the right path now. But mention those. I had to travel 2 hrs away for a doctor to try this and am upset coz the doctors in Regina didn't think of trying something like this.
I hope all works out and hope you can resolve this like I am.
Take care it will get better :-)

Sarah - posted on 01/09/2013

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Thanks so much Nikki! We actually have a doctors appt tomorrow morning so I will bring that up. :-)
I will keep you posted and thanks again for responding. I don't I have ever been this frustrated in my life! Gahhhh!!

Nikki - posted on 01/09/2013

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Hello Sarah, we have been referred to a specialist in Saskatoon and he has her on medication for an over active bladder. I would suggest taking her back to the pedi and asking to get testing for that or even a sleepy bladder. Since she has been on the medicine her accidents have almost come to a complete stop. And I mean from like 5 accidents a day to maybe one a week :-) I'm so glad that we have hopefully found out why is wrong.
Good luck and keep me updated :-)
Nikki

Kiera - posted on 11/25/2011

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my daughter has a poop problem, and i have tried everything too, contact the school

Jackie - posted on 11/15/2011

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give her little to do liquid during the day. And/or something or someone is scarring her on t.v. school, daycare, outside, see if this will help if not get back to my sight in the mean time look on inter or I will try to send you some more note.

Shellie - posted on 11/13/2011

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I had the same exact problem with my daughter, will be 7 in feb. Talked to her ped about it a few times, she kept saying she would "get it in her own time." After me pushing, she sent her for ultrasound to find she has an irritable bladder. then sent to a urologist who put her on a med, and we have to avoid citrus foods/fluids which cause more irritation, but have been doing much better with accidents. just a suggestion

Anna - posted on 11/13/2011

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MMy son is having same issue...but his problem is at night. Dr said he's constipated and when that happens...you don't fully empty your bladder. Could this be a problem with your child?

Suhail - posted on 11/12/2011

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I think you should check with the school and maybe talk to them so she could get more breaks to go potty. Also you should talk with the doctor bec there are a few medical conditions that can cause this. My little brother had an inmature bladder and wet his pant until about 12 yrs old. Maybe is just that she gets too busy and needs some reminder,but you should talk to the doctor just in case

Lisa - posted on 11/12/2011

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It seems odd that she is having accidents during the day at school and not during her sleep. I would suggest speaking with the teacher and making sure she is allowed to go when she needs to go. Alot of teachers after small breaks periods will not allow the child to leave the room again. I also would check with her pediatrician to make sure she's doesnt have a medical condition.

Corinne - posted on 11/12/2011

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Maybe you should have her teacher take her to the restroom every hour. Then after a while every 2 hours until eventually she gets into the habit of going every time she needs to. If taking her every hour is constantly cutting into her play time she might learn even faster to go only when she needs to.

Angel - posted on 11/12/2011

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Well have you had her kidneys checked out. Some children have weak bladders and find it difficult or the teacher are not letting them take bath room breaks. You need to stress to the principal and the teacher of the situation after taking her to the doctor and tell them to cut back on liquids and if she finds herself needing to go to the restroom not to embrass them and let them go.My son at that age was having some issues but found out that one of the teachers he had was giving the kids problems and all of them were scared of her once I found this out, I went to the school discuss with the principal had a meeting with the teacher she made a comment I went over the desk after her and then called my uncle at the school board and she lost her job. Kids should not be afraid to ask to go to the restroom at home they go ask much as needed at school teachers tries to control control control she is only 6 she is way too young to train her bladder if she doesn't have anything wrong with her kidneys. Sincerely, Beth Hope all goes well with you keep me informed

Mindy - posted on 11/12/2011

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My daughter is 5 and still does the same thing. She does it because she holds it in so long that she is dancing around the toilet to go and then leaks before she can make it. I think it is beause she is so afraid she is going to miss something while she is gone or something. I honestly would just set a timer to remind her to go. i started doing this a few weeks ago and it has helped. but then she didn't like it anymore. So i kept reminding her when to go, me personally i think it is ridiculous that she is 5 and has to be reminded.. so i finally just sat down with her and told her that i would not be reminding her anymore, she is a big girl and knows when she has to go. I told her if she had anymore accidents due to holding it in or not going in the toilet there would be a consequence. I didn;t tell her what it would be i just told her that there are two toilets in our house and there is no reason she should be having accidents when there are toilets around.. immediately after doing this i would notice her dancing around to go and i wouldn't say anything.. she got up and said "oh mom i think i need to go to the restroom, i wil be right back okay.".I would try this. When my daughter also had her 5 yr physical done i talked to the dr about it right in front of her. She did get embarrased and i did feel bad but the doctor told her what would happen if she held it in and we have not had any issues since.

Dayna - posted on 11/12/2011

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Had the same problem with my daughter when she was in kindergarten. She was notorious for not wanting to stop what she was doing and having accidents even before she started school, had a number of UTIs over the years and she had accidents at night until she was almost seven so it was kind of inevitable it seemed. Haha!

She had spare clothes she kept in her backpack and I spoke with her teacher about it (because she was worried Naomi had a UTI) and discussed a schedule. I told my daughter as soon as the teacher signaled it was time to clean up for lunch she needed to immediately stop what she was doing and go to the bathroom, then come back and clean up.

Personally I wouldn't have your daughter going every 30 minutes because her pelvic muscles would weaken. Also, I very kindly (after many accidents at school) told my daughter it didn't bother me she had accidents but there's a very really chance someone at school might make fun of her because of it and she might get her feelings hurt and I would hate for that to happen. Sounds mean, but it's a sad but true fact and I wanted to spare her.

I would then remind her when I dropped her off at school to make sure she went potty before lunch and when I'd pick her up after school I'd ask her if she went. Constant reminders seemed to be key to her getting down the routine.

User - posted on 11/12/2011

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Here's a Bear in the Big Blue House Potty training video (pt 1). It's a nice reminder for kids that it's okay to stop whatever they're doing & go to the potty & that sometimes they will have accidents but that it's okay. It might help to build up & encourage your little girl.
Also, Pull Ups keeps coming up...

Kiera - posted on 11/12/2011

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"My daughter has a bad case of diarrhea. She is 11 now, and it is very embarrassing for her. She cannot conrol her bowel therefore she poops her pants nearly every day - even at school. It is very runny - like water, and extremely explosive

Jamie - posted on 11/12/2011

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Since she is not having problems at night it does not seem to be a "small bladder" issue. It is most likely that she is distracted or doesn't want to take the time to go to the bathroom. She puts it off too long and the inevitable happens. It is important to get her on a routine. For example, she has to go to the bathroom every time you are getting ready to leave the house, every time you are going to leave anywhere, she should go to the bathroom...restaurant, mall, etc... Also, speak with her teachers about setting up a schedule throughout the day at school for her to go. Sometimes the teachers will just ask if she needs to go instead of actually having her go. Getting her on a routine may be tedious, but better then cleaning up messes. Eventually, she'll follow the routine on her own; hopefully before the new baby comes along--congrats!

Nikki - posted on 11/11/2011

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I have taken her to a pedi and no infections. She has gone thru some other testing and no damage to her kidneys or bladder.

Michelle - posted on 11/11/2011

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My daughter used to do this and so I went to a specialist,he told me to try and make her hang on a little more everytime she wanted to go in order to strengthen her pelvic floor muscles and make her aware of needing to go plus we had an ultra sound which found she had some kidney damage from not emptying her whole bladder,there was always some retained,she was put on antibiotics,the teacher was not very understanding about the way she use to smell and wouldnt always help with making her change her pants,it was a stressful time for us all :(

Emily - posted on 11/11/2011

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Does she drink more than she eats? If she does, has she been testedfor Type1 Diabetes? One of the signs is being thirsty all the time, and as a result, accidents. It's probably not Diabetes, but thought I'd mention it, since it's commonly overlooked.

Rhiannon - posted on 11/11/2011

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I had the same problem with my daughter she would get so caught up in what she was doing she would forget that she needed to go and would wet herself.

A star chart helped, she would get a star for staying dry all day and if she got a full week she would get a treat.

She is 10 now and that accidents are very rare. If she is dry at night with you i wouldn't think it was a control problem. she probably just gets caught up in playing and leaves it to late :)

Sharlene - posted on 11/11/2011

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She probably just a nervousechild that probably has nerves and not full bladder control yet,Take her to see her Predi, all the best

Mindy - posted on 11/11/2011

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I agree it could be stressed induced or she is having so much fun she doesn't want to stop to go to the bathroom. Before you head to the Dr. I would stop by the school and be prepared to spend some timing watch how they are handling kids and the bathroom breaks. I think you may find a lot of answers by watching how she interacts during the day. You maybe able to notice any stress triggers. It could also be something as simple as she may not want to stop what she is doing to go to the bathroom. Whatever the case you should be able to work with her school to provide her with more guidance on getting her to the bathroom instead of just asking if she needs to go.

Kelina - posted on 11/11/2011

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Have you tried rewarding her if she comes home in the same clothes she went to school in? I agree with wendy take her to the doctor, it could be stress induced, but possibly a reward system might help.

Nikki - posted on 11/11/2011

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But it happens more at daycare and at school then at home even on the weekends she has maybe one accident of that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/11/2011

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Have you out right asked her why she is having this problem??

Nikki - posted on 11/11/2011

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Hello Marina, I have worked with the school to help remind her every half an hour and yes I pack extra clothes in case she doesn't make it. And the daycare is on the same system so I'm still puzzled.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/11/2011

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Have you talked with her school about this???? She may not want to stop what she is doing to ask to use the bathroom....or she might be embarassed to ask. If you can work with the teacher to get her on a schedule for bathroom breaks, like 1 per hour, that might help.

It infuriates me that your school lets your daughter stay in wet cloths. Can you bring in an extra set for her incase she does have an accident???

Nikki - posted on 11/10/2011

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Hello Tina, yes she is allowed breaks at school and at daycare when she needs to go they just let the kids. I do know she does not like te auto flush toilets but they are neither at school or daycare.

Tina - posted on 11/10/2011

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Is she aloud toilet breaks at school. I find alot of the time they make you wait which isn't always easy for a girl. Some people also feel uncomfortable using public toilets. Just an idea. Maybe you need to talk to her find out if anything is bothering her.

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