Neighbor Harassment

Gabriella - posted on 07/11/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




The other day my son who is 5 was playing with a neighbor who is 4 and his mom caught them with their pants down. And of course I was totally embarrassed and upset. I told her that I would take care of it and my husband and I would talk to him. We kept him inside and for a few days until his best friend came home which happens to be her nephew and they live a few houses down from us with is dad and his grandmother. The boys mom was mad at her mother for letting my son and her nephew play the dad if my sons best friend didn't agree with her and told her boys will be boys and plus they are young and to let it go. The mom is now mad and calling my son a child molester and a pediphil from across the street.She rushes the other kids in the house.My son is now depressed and is always looking out the window to see if they are outside. I don't know what to do he is only 5.Please help me..


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Deanna - posted on 07/11/2013




Greetings. My advice to you would be to get all parents involved and come to an understanding of what happened and how the four of you should talk to the boys together. It's obviously a situation that has happened to others, but it's not something that you would not want to continue. One of the boys came up with the idea, so it's important to recognize where that idea came from. Maybe something they have seen on TV or in person?? Which ever it may be, you need to make sure that those types of things are not available for the children to watch or see. As parents, it's your responsibility to explain to the boys why this behavior was not okay and why it should not happen again. It is not the parents responsibility to lash out as you have described above, involve other people, especially other children in the situation. Any adult, especially a parent that has the audacity to call a child a molester and a pedophile needs some serious help. Don't allow your son to watch this woman's behavior. That's completely ignorant and will ultimately damage the feelings of both boys. For Gods sake, children that age shouldn't even know what the word molester or pedophile means. If your son is showing signs of depression as a result of what this other parent is saying then you also need to have a conversation with that parent demanding that she stop with the nonsense. You need to let your son know that what she is saying is not true. You may consider getting his pediatrician involved or a therapist. You don't want him thinking that he is a terrible person. Harsh words will scar a child. There is one more thing that I wanted to mention and as bad as I don't want to say this, but could it be possible that this situation happened as a result of an older person doing this to one of the boys? Just a thought. I do hope that you are able to work together as parents for the boys sake. Best of luck to you and keep you chin up.

Sal - posted on 07/11/2013




She is over reacting and forgetting they both had their pants down.. And that she should of been taking better care of your son while he was in her care..make it plane to her that you if you were narrow minded and vindictive as she is that her over reaction is a clear case of her guilt and Shame for putting your son in danger

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