Jessica - posted on 04/09/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
So this is kind of a rant. I have some neighbors that have a side yard as their backyard. This sideyard connects with our front yard. So their house is caddy corner to ours. They only have part of this yard fenced in. I have four boys and one girl who play in the cul-de-sac on the street/ our own yard. I am always outside keeping an eye on them and this time of year I have to pick all the weeds that take over along the property line because they never put sod in. While I was picking the weeds along the property line I tried to keep my 2 year old around me along with one of her older brothers in case she wandered. They didn't wander far onto our neighbor's property but were wondering on it close to me as well as on our own property. I didn't think it would be a big deal for the following reasons: their kids have played on our property before without our permission, he mows over the property line constantly because he has a riding mower and it won't fit around a tree on the edge of his property unless he mows over the line - then he says it looks better to have a straight line - so he mows all down it and shorter than we like because our grass is grass - not weeds and we actually want it to grow, he has also said more than once after they moved in when I tried to stop our kids from wandering over the line that it is fine because it is just weeds. They aren't hurting anything. Not to mention when other neighbor's have friends with kids over they always let all the kids play on their property and we let them on ours, too.
They are young kids all under 10 - unless they are digging holes how much damage could the really do running around? Well today my 8 year old was chasing butterflies between the two properties (not crossing over in front of their fence or house - more of an obvious violation). All of my other kids were riding bikes. My two year old was taking a nap. When it was time to go in, my eight year old refused to come and so I had to go over onto their property to get him. Well tonight I went out for a walk and saw that they put up a private property sign more towards and kind of facing our house. What upsets me is that they never even tried to talk to me or my husband about it. And the husband was out there at the time today and on Saturday when I was pulling weeds. He just smiled and waved. Not once did he approach me. I had no idea it bothered them because they had previously said it was fine. We have talked to them numerous times - gone over there for dinner and get-togethers, had them over to play darts. I wouldn't say we are the best of friends but we always seemed friendly with each other and got along. My husband and I decided not to make a huge issue about them mowing over the line because we weren't worried about them not knowing where the property line is (we had a discussion when they moved in because they were going even further over) and felt like we were friends and it would seem petty to make a big deal about it when it seemed obvious, after talking about it, they weren't trying to infringe. They also let their dog crap all around our mailbox - we never had an issue with this until they got a dog so I'm pretty sure it is their dog. Not to mention all of the times I have caught their dog for them and kept it in my own yard despite the fact he broke through their fence when they weren't home (I just happened to be outside). We live not far from a busy road and dogs get run over all the time. My mom says I'm making a big deal out of nothing but I am upset because I really do try to be respectful to other people and thought that we were friends with these people enough at least that they could talk to us. I guess I am just disappointed that they aren't because I had liked them and was looking forward to hanging out with them more now that the weather is better. They had always said they wanted to live on a street where we are more of a community. Where we all look out for each other, where kids are all outside playing, and neighbors do things together. But I felt this was very passive aggressive. And now I think it will just be awkward. I know it's their property (I am sure someone will say it) and they have every right to post a sign. I just wish they would have talked about it with us opposed to sending us a message. I probably wouldn't care as much if I knew we were moving soon but they moved in a year ago and we moved in a couple of years before that, so these are going to be our neighbors for at least a few years more and I feel like if this is how they deal with a conflict, it could lead to bigger problems if we do something else that irks them. Let's face it sometimes we accidentally make our neighbors upset. What would you do? Would you talk to your neighbor if you had an issue or just hint at it?