Nervous Wrek

Roxanne - posted on 12/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi, i have had 2 misscarriages in the past year and have been lucky enough to fall pregnant again. i have never reached the 12 weeks and for the first time i am as far as 6-7 weeks. i have refused an early scanning as last time they said all was fine and my pregnancy was finished 2 days later. i want to tell my family but i dont know how they will react as they know how badly i have took the last 2 pregnancies and i feel like i just dont want anyone watching or knowing this time round untill i am 100% sure this is for real, but in my line of work i have to let my boss know and become hands off therefor nothing will stay a secret for long. i just cant calm myself and believe everything is going to be ok.

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Sophie - posted on 12/04/2013

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Hi Roxanne,
I have been through the same thing as you about 5 years ago. I had three miscarriages in 3 years. The first one I was not even aware I was pregnant until I lost the baby. I understand how distraught you can get. My Husband and I went to see a specialist and had all the tests done. Everything was fine, it was just bad luck. Finally in 2009, I got pregnant again and had mixed feelings about it. I as excited one minute and scared the next. We had the early monitoring and we got good news at 7 weeks and then again at 9 weeks and again 12 weeks and all our scans showed a beautiful baby developing very well. However I remained cautious through the whole pregnancy. I did not want to get attached to my son in case just like the others I was to lose him. In July 2010 my beautiful baby boy was born. Three years later without warning I got pregnant again and I am now the proud mother of a 2 and a half months old daughter as well. Don't lose hope. If it's meant to happen it will. What I did when I was pregnant with my son to avoid overly physical work was I told people I had a sore back so couldn't do any heavy lifting. I told my Boss eventually when I was 10 weeks. I know it sounds a bit cheeky but I didn't want to go through the same thing with my colleagues in case I lost my baby again. I wish you all the best for this one.

[momoftwo] - posted on 12/04/2013

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Just have faith, I mean stressing your body out isn't going to help at all. Just breathe and relax. Take one step at a time. If you have to tell your boss you don't have much of a choice but tell them your situation and how you don't want anyone else to know and how it'll put stress on you and baby if people start blabbing about it. Your boss will hopefully have respect for your wishes and understand. Try to think about the positive future and what you have now rather than dwell on the past. I know and understand it's hard but you have to think positive. Do something that you like that'll get your mind off of it. Usually I listen to happy music.

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