Stephanie - posted on 03/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
The deal is already sealed and we have a new baby set to arrive in early August 2013. I have no other children of my own, but have a step-daughter who is 12 soon to be 13 in September. My husband and I both agreed that we would like a baby boy. For him, it's the obvious father-son relationship he is wanting and for me, well to be honest, I just think a boy would be easier LOL. We went to our 20wk OB appt to find out the sex of our baby only to find out that baby refused to uncross it's legs. :o/ And when baby was in a good position to determine gender, the umbilical cord was directly between it's legs. Bummmer :o/ This event brought up a conversation between me and my husband. He mentioned that if the baby turned out to be a girl that he worried that his 12yr old daughter would be unhappy and even jealous to know that she wouldn't be daddy's only daughter now. She is extremely excited about the baby in general and we took her to the ultrasound appt with us. Once we realized we wouldn't be finding out the gender that day she was a little bummed. She mentioned that she really wants a baby brother. My husband is worried that she'll be jealous because when his daughter was little he wasn't the best father, as she was unplanned. Him and his previous girlfriend were not together at the time they found out she was pregnant. He has changed 100% for the better and has lived his life reflecting this for the last 5 years or so. He is worried that now, if the baby is a girl, when his daughter sees him with the baby and sees that he is so much better with her than he was with his daughter, she will become jealous. My fear now is that because of his thinking, if the baby does turn out to be a girl, he'll be guarded and tense because of what his daughter may or may not be feeling/thinking. Any ideas on how to address this before baby arrives would be VERY VERY helpful.