New baby will have another last name then her her new sibling how to explain?

Barb - posted on 02/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old daughter I am not sure how to explain to her why her baby sibling has a different last name then her. She has been calling my boyfriend daddy cause her daddy isn't in her life and hasn't been ever really. She never really understood that the guy we saw every few months or so was her dad and he never interacted with her. She calls my boyfriend dad all the time. If I explain to her he's not really her bio dad it will just confuse her and he's been taking care of her and in her life since she was 1 month. I am just don't know what I should I do cause he wants me to have his name in the babies last name.How do you I explain this?

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Barb - posted on 02/15/2012

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Yes we are getting married within the 2 or 3 years. He wants to adopt her after we get married.Ya he wanted her to calling her daddy he's always loved her like she was her own and been helping me take care of her since she was a tiny baby! His family calls him daddy my family calls him, my friends say daddy when they are talking to her about him. I was nervous about it, but if this baby is going to be calling him daddy I want her to too, cause even though he's not her bio dad he is been the best dad she could of ever asked for.I know when she is older I will explain about her biol dad, my boyfriend will always be daddy.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/15/2012

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Well, she is only 2. She will not even notice there is a different last name involved until she is probably about 5-6...unless you tell her.



Are you going to marry your boyfriend? The reason I ask, is if he is interested in adopting your daughter, then problem solved. But I am not one to hide the fact that children have different fathers. It creates more confusion and problems down the road. When she is old enough, you will need to explain it eventually. But wait until she is old enough to understand. She didn't know to out of the blue start calling your boyfriend daddy, someone taught her that. I think it is incredible that he has stepped into that role, but if he is going to be daddy, might as well legally be daddy. You could have her start calling him by his name, if that is what a real concern would be.

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