Carole - posted on 10/10/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )
I have two stepdaughters that I love very much (teen and nearly-teen - I met them when the younger was 5). We have a great relationship, though I am *not* their mother or mother-figure since they have a mother who loves them and is very active in their lives. However, I am certainly a primary caretaker and they trust me to look out for their best interests the same way that their parents do. I'm considering having a baby (not pregnant yet) and they both are very excited (I wanted them to know before it happened). However, I'm concerned about how this will affect our relationship since of course the baby will take up a lot of time and energy that they receive currently - I'm active at their schools and in scouts, etc.
Any insight from stepmothers/mothers who have already done this? How can I make sure that they know how important they are and that I will love them just as much as this baby? Or am I worrying too much?