New here. My husband Killed himself now I have 2 children am alone.

Dana - posted on 07/29/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am 45 I have a 6yr old daddy girl and an 8yr old daddy boy. Now daddy is gone. How do we move on? Cope with his loss? His family his being horrible telling everyone I am his ex-wife, blaming me for his death.

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Priscille - posted on 07/30/2015

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That is not very long ago. There is absolutely no rush. Take the time you need. You will know when the time is right.

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Dana - posted on 07/30/2015

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My husband died on July 5th, 2015. I have decided to put everything into storage and go through it at a later day. It is just to soon for us to go through everything. We have our little things of Daddies. But the rest is just to much.

Priscille - posted on 07/29/2015

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Hi Dana,

I can only imagine what it must be like to go through what you are right now and you must be an extremely courageous mum!

Coping with loss is never easy. How long ago did your husband die?

Let the emotions come when they do and allow yourself to feel them in the moment and then let them pass when it does. Don't let anyone dictate how you should be feeling and don't let yourself do that too (we are often the harshest about ourselves!)

This is no doubt very hard on your children, but they have the resilience they need to go through this. Model what you would like from them. Do not hide your feelings to them and let them know that it is difficult for you too, but don't let your emotions overwhelm you. Let them see how, even though you will all miss their dad, life can go on and has to go on.

Find ways to honour him and to remember the good things about him. Even though he is not here anymore, he still is and will always be your children's daddy. They (and you) will always hold him in your hearts and can always feel him there anytime you need to.

His family is just reacting like every human being on earth: They are grief-stricken and need to blame someone. Unfortunately, you are probably the easiest target for them. Don't buy into their story. If your husband decided to take his life it is his choice and his choice alone. You have nothing to do with it. Surround yourself with people who will support you through this.

You will get through this and your children will too. Sending you warm hugs in these difficult times.

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