Tina - posted on 09/16/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi, I am wondering what you all think about this. My fiance and I are looking for a new home, and he thinks we need to get a 4 bedroom house because his son who is away at college will need his own room when he will be home on school breaks. I don't disagree that he would need his own space. But he will be splitting time with us and his mother. And I am wondering if having a room that is ONLY for him is the right thing in the long run, when total he may spend a month there in an entire year...and not all at one time. We have three kids total, two will be living with us (1 full time, and 1 half time). Can't the brothers share a room whenever the older son happens to be there? Or am I being too frugal...I want him to be welcomed in the home, and feel like its his when he is there...we have had trouble finding 4 bedroom homes that we can afford. I suggested turning the office into a 4th bedroom, but he insists on an office. So I don't know how to approach this...my fiances ex wife did not treat his oldest son very well, and he is initially on defensive. I am trying to be practical...I love his son, and want him to have a place in our home...I guess I should just let go and have the 4 bedroom house, even though in a couple of years we won't be needing it at all, as I hope that my daughter will be moving out on her own as well in the next couple of years. Suggestions...comments...are most welcome.