New mom needs advice on a routine for twins (not here yet)

Darcy - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am getting a little nervous about keeping up with a routine for my unborn twins. I will be a first time mother and looking for any kind of advice that can make things easier.

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Debbie - posted on 08/25/2011

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Im due any day with twins,(4&5) babies,,, but how is they easiest way to start a schedule with feeding and so on,, so one can get a lil sleep, im marrried not sure how much help he will be??

Manda - posted on 07/17/2009

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I'm glad you like babywhisperers - that have completely saved my sanity! I've gone from being up 10 times a night to just the once now - phew!! Seems like you've had some great support here too. All the best of luck and lok forward to seeing a pic of your little ones when they are born :)

Rebekah - posted on 07/16/2009

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I hope you're able to breastfeed too, Darcy. I really wish I could have, but it wasn't to be. Lots of hours stuck to the breastpump for me!! I wouldn't want to do that again. 20-60 mins to feed one baby, 20-60 mins to feed the next and then 20-30 mins on the breastpump, 8+ times a day! Woah.

Darcy - posted on 07/16/2009

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Thanks Emily for the encouragment, it is just what I needed. I really, really want to breastfeed. I will cherish your advice.

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when i had my twins who were 9 weeks early and now 8 months old... i had a child who was 11 months old.... it was rough getting into a routine, but i have been very blessed where they chose the routine they wanted... with a now 19 month old and twin 8 month olds, they have been all getting up at the same time and hungry at the same time.... we've learned that you take the fussiest one first... and try to interact with the other one to keep their mind off of the food... we didn't rush a schedule, they chose their own like my first son did... there's times where they will get so full during two meals that they will skip the third meal. not that i intend to have them skip a meal, but i have chosen not to wake up my sleeping baby... every parent has their own way of doing things and you'll slowly get into one. our twins were in the NICU for 4 weeks (we were told they would be in for 9), we weren't prepared for them coming early, we didn't have their room ready or anything together... find something that works for you! best of luck!

Gemma - posted on 07/15/2009

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i have twins that are 5months. they are my only children, i was very scared when i found out as i didnt think i would cope, they spent their first month in nicu as they were early, when they got discharged they were on 4hour feeds but soon went to 2hour after a while it went to 3hour, the best advice i got given was listen to ur babies. i agree with the advice posted by some mums about feeding them together, best thing i ever did, it will be hard till u have got yourself & them in to a routine but it is all worth it when they give you the first smile. mine have started to sleep through the night have been since 4months, take any help you get offered, hope everything goes well & the best of luck enjoy every minute of them

Irina - posted on 07/15/2009

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My twin girls are 20 months now and OMG, it was easier when they were little babies. They are climbers and in to everything now. My son was like this between 18 months to 2 years. So I'm hoping in 4 months it will be a little easier. My girls were born at 37.5 weeks (scheduled C-Section) 5lb 15oz and 5lb 4oz. I nursed my son for a year and I wanted to do the same with my girls. So I told nurses not to give them a bottle because I want to nurse. Drops of colostrum was enough for my son for first 2 days till my milk came in so I thought it will be enough for my girls. The first day they were so sleepy, I saw that they are hungry but they were falling a sleep at my breast trying to suck what was (or wasn't there). After 24 hrs the nurse took their blood and found out their blood sugar was low. Doctor immediately made me give them a bottle and they finished 2oz each in 1 min. I felt SO guilty that they were hungry for a day because of my choice. Dr explained me that my son was bigger (7lb and 12oz) and he could survive on little colostrum but the girls are too little and don't have the baby fat to strive till my milk comes in. The bigger baby's blood sugar went back to normal right away but not in my little one. So they took her to NICU. Thanks God we came home all together after 4 days in the hospital. My newborn son was up all the time and he didn't want to do anything with his Dad so I was so tired and I was prepared to be twice tired with twins. But I was very surprise when my girls were sleeping most of the time between 3hr feedings for first 2 months. I made one crib a co-sleeper (took one side down and leveled the mattress with our mattress) and the girls slept there for 8 months. I was expecting them to go to separate cribs after 4 months but till 8 months they didn't move much while sleeping. I fed them at the same time ALWAYS and it gave me time to relax between the feedings. I didn't get as much milk this time so my girls nursed 10min (their appetizer) and then had a bottle (main course). At 5 months they refused nursing as much as I tried to keep nursing for at least a year. At 8 months girls were moved to their room in separate cribs. If one wakes up, the other one sleeps through her crying! It's awesome! Till 12 months they woke up at night around 1:30am for a bottle. Right after their 1st birthday they started sleeping 8pm-8am. I took their bottles and pacifiers away at 15 months. They started walking at 12 & 13 months (my son was walking at 8 months so it was weird for me:o). Now (at 20 months) they started taking their clothes and diapers off and climbing out of their cribs. That is my challenge now:o) .... and sometimes they bite each other:( But they are SO cute!
Good luck with your pregnancy! You are SO LUCKY to be a mom of twins!

Rebekah - posted on 07/15/2009

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I also wanted to say, don't try to follow all the advice out there. Filter it through, and keep what applies or what works, and forget the rest. I stressed myself out trying to follow all the rules (often rules for singletons) and it just made things harder for me. Once I settled into what worked for us, it was a lot better.
Enjoy your twins. They are such a blessing. Our boys are the best thing ever!

Bernadette - posted on 07/15/2009

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Hi

I had my first pregancy as twins. It is a lot of hard work but it is very rewarding. My Twins were in special care nursey for the first 2 weeks and they got them feeding 1/2 hour apart. The best advise i can give is get your family to help as much as possible with cooking cleaning (my mum did all my washing and ironing) etc, and sleep when they do.



We would also bath the boys at night as we found this helped settle them. It really depends on your children, you can only try.



Good luck and enjoy it as it goes by so quickly.

Rebekah - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have 9 month old twins (who spent 3 months in NICU as they were very early). I found that I needed to accept as much help as possible.
The hospital sent the boys home on 4-hourly feeds, which I did not understand because as soon as they arrived home they pretty much needed 2-hourly feeds (but they were still tiny). I just had to do what they wanted, but tried not to feed within the 2 hours. Be flexible. I also didn't wake the other if one woke for a feed, but fed them when they woke. Don't know if this was wise after reading what the others said, but it worked ok for us. Although I didn't get much sleep :)
We started out trying to sleep the boys in the one cot, and sometimes they were even screaming in the other one's face and he didn't wake, but we were still scared they would wake each other up we ended up splitting them up a bit more. We then heard that if you leave them, they will get used to each other and then won't wake when the other cries.
I don't seem to be making much sense so I will leave it here. Good luck with your twins.

Emily - posted on 07/14/2009

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Hey, Congrats! I have 13.5 mo old twins and I agree with both things Leslie said. Both of my girls were in the NICU a few days before coming home and they started them on a 3 hour feeding schedule which I stuck to most of the time. I am nursing my girls so sometimes we would need to take a few days of demand feeding to build milk supply. Feeding really was my only routine in the beginning. Feed, change, sleep/entertain babies (they hung out in the Boppy pillows a ton). And yes, the beginning is crazy. Accept all and any help that people offer you!!!!



Once the girls started to get a bit older (3/4 mo) I started tracking what they did during the day and a schedule started to emerge (though I did need to push on some things). I have worked really hard to have them on the same eating and sleeping schedule otherwise things would be more than crazy. IMO waking and feeding when you have twins is an absolute NECESSITY!



Best of luck to you! The first few months will FLY...can't believe mine are going on 14 mo!

Darcy - posted on 07/14/2009

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Thank you for telling me about babywhisperers.com. It blew me away as soon as I opened it.



It went right along with what Leslie was say too, so thanks to you too!

Leslie - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have 16 year old twin daughters and a 10 year old daughter. Twins were the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. They grow up playing together and build a strong bond of friendship that is so precious. It is such a joy.
Don't be nervous, trust your instincts! It is a little crazy at first, but the thing that helped me get through the first years are..
1) If one wakes for feeding at a regular time, wake the other and make them eat on the same schedule so that you are not awake 24 hours a day...the 2nd one will fall in line and your life will be easier.
2) Babyproof one room completely...and when they start walking and scootin around, let them play in that room. It will give you peace of mind that they are safe and allowing them to interact without you present constantly helps them to develop some independance. (This does not mean you don't watch them..just encourage them to play together)
Hope this helps some....enjoy every moment and take tons of pictures!

Manda - posted on 07/13/2009

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Get on to babywhisperers.com. The methodology they use is great and they will be able to guide you all the way.

Best of luck!! :)

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