Melody - posted on 08/26/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi everybody. I am expecting my first baby, with my boyfriend whom already has a 6 year old son. My question right now is not concerning my baby, it's more-so about my place as far as disciplining goes with the 6 year old, who is not biologically mine, but who I think of as my own.
Family situation is tough. My boyfriend and I are both young parents, I am 20, he is 22. Mistakes happen I guess when you are 14. Long story short, discipline with his 6 year old falls VERY short between both my boyfriend and his mother. I feel wrong for wanting to step in, but we are about to have a child together who will be around her brother more often than not.
I have a few concerns with him. He's very fresh with us to start. He's selfish when it comes to toys. He seems to be OK at school and when over a friends house, but with certain kids he is very mean. He also has an iPad (I personally do NOT agree with this) because it is not monitored when he is home with his mom. He just talks to it and can search anything in the world... He knows where a baby comes out of on a woman's body, for example. Second, along with this iPad, he has a snapchat. He is 6. He has a snapchat. Today I got home and checked his snapchat in which he posted multiple pictures to his "story" that show his face with the words "Kill You" written on them. I feel as though snapchat is something he should not have whatsoever, but I am not his mother. I don't know how to approach the situation. He's also had previous issues with stating that he hears voices telling him to kill his grandfather. I take this very seriously, but I don't believe his father nor his mother do. I'm at a standstill as how to handle this situation. Any advice from step moms would be greatly appreciated because Lord knows I need it.