Cathie - posted on 04/24/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My ex-husband and I are heading to court next Wednesday, April 30. We have a son who is 8, almost 9 years old. The father travels to racetracks (most of the time at Canadian racetracks; we live in the US) about six months of the year and the other six months he (the father is almost 50 years old) lives with his dad, in his dad's house, with his dad's wife. When at the racetracks he lives in his makeshift horse trailer. He's built some cupboards and has a fridge, microwave and TV. and a single mattress and electricity. No water, no sink, no toilet, no shower, no stove/oven and calls it a living quarters which it's not because it's not self-sufficient. He's ordered to pay $163 a month in child support; his payments are sporadic at best and he's always in arrears. The child gets health insurance through the state through the father because he doesn't have much for income but the father is illegally getting this because it's the parent who the child primarily resides that must apply for this through the state. He's told the state that he has the child 50% of the time which is a flat out lie. He spent 7 months at the tracks last year and then only saw the child every other weekend for the other five months and a couple holidays. Everything the father is proposing is based on money and hurting me; it's not about the child. He wants us to share transportation even when he's in Canada. My husband and I farm/ranch and cant get away, especially in the summer and it shouldn't be our cost if he's gonna traipse around the country and Canada and live like a gypsy. The back side of the race track is a dangerous place for any child. Besides all the horses that are in the barns, on walkers, being taken to the track, etc., there is extensive drug use at the track, alcohol abuse, sex (father was 24 when he got a 15 year old pregnant at the track (NOT ME)). Horses get away from their handlers all the time, get out of their stalls, even jump off the track during races. I need to express to the just how dangerous and awful a place this is. Father has also had at least two restraining orders against him by other women and a domestic violence conviction (not sure how he got his passport and into Canada but he did). Any suggestions on how to get my point across will be greatly appreciated.