Veronica - posted on 04/23/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have a 3 year old son, father and I co parent under separate roofs.
Here's the story:
They man I am dating (33, no children) and I i have been seeing each other for 6 months. Due to finishing college full time and working part time, finances are tight. He rents a home and work was slow for him just being out of school. He was going to lose the house (3 bedroom) and my apt lease was up and being raised 200$ extra and could afford to renew the lease. So we decided to become roommates. (This is the mindset we were going into this with since this is a new relationship and I was not going to let my son think this is new daddy so I made sure to get it all out on the table before we agreed) My son had met my partner a few times breifly and knew him as mommys friend. My son loves to play with him and calls him his friend.
So my son and i took my partners two extra rooms. Our rules were: do not step over or question my parenting, when my son is over here 4-5 days of the week, we do not show affection or sleep in the same room. He may have suggestions but I am pretty much mommy and daddy since my son was born.
My partner understood and agreed 100%.
It is 2 months in, and there was a situation tonight (my son is at his dad's) where my partners dog destroyed two of my sons balls in the backyard. My patented said nothing and the dog did it right in front of us. I asked him if he was going to discipline his dog or even tell him NO. He went in saying how it is pointless and dogs have such short term memory. So I took a deep breath and said "guess I can't leave one thing that could be destroyed laying around" and my partner played victim.
There was another situation in the car the other day, I had an event at school where my partner was the model (finishing up beauty school) and (I drove in my car) we took my son to his grandmothers for 3 hours. In the car, my son got ahold of my temp liscence (preice of paper since I renewed mine) and crumbled it a bit. My partner yells at my son and I snaped back "do NOT raise your voice to my son" bc he stepped way over the line. My son started crying bc my partner shocked him. My partner and I had made it clear unless my son hits him or something like that, or I am not around, he may be stern with him to explain that is not ok. But in this situation he sounded like Mom. And I was not ok with it.
My oartner claims he loves me so much and wants more involvement with my son.
1. This is a very new relationship and he does not have that right.
He doesn't understand or huffs and puffs as if he deserves and does have that right.
He is very sensitive and I am strong headed.
I hope this all made sense. I'd like some advise or anything if anyone has been through a similar situation please please.