Jennifer - posted on 11/01/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 yrs. He is not the Father of either one of my boys but he is the only man figure in their lives. My 11 yr old talks to his dad on occasion but there is no relationship there and never has been. He lives 11 hrs away and has other kids. My son has very bad anger problems. My husband and I do not get along at all because he is so loud and rude! He is 8 years older than I am and doesn't have kids of his own. I feel like he doesn't know how to parent which makes co-parenting impossible! He is always yelling at my son which in turn just enrages my son even more. Within minutes they are in an all out battle with each other. This happens everyday. I can't keep doing this. I feel like I have to make a major decision.. either let my husband keep treating my son this way or pack up the boys and leave. I try to tell my husband he needs to calm down and parent differently put he doesn't listen to me. My son loves him but says he wishes he would leave. Please help!

My parents have offered to let my son live with them but they live 6 hrs away. I dont know if I should let him go and save my marriage then get him back and fix their relationship or just move back with my parents with the boys and call this marriage a loss. I love him but he is so rude. Everyone sees how rude he is and its really embarrassing.


Michelle - posted on 11/01/2014




You have said that you and your husband don't get along, so why are you married?
Your children come before any man and if a man is making your children unhappy then there isn't really anything to think about.
If he's not willing to go to parenting classes then you need to leave and be there for your children. Don't ever choose a man over your children and if you send your son away it could hurt him a lot more than he will say. How would you feel if your Mother chose to stay with someone and just sent you away? I know I would be crushed that she chose a nasty, abusive man over her own child and that would mean that she never really loved me.
Just something to think about.

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