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My daughter is 2 years old. I have been all on my own since i found out that I was pregnant. Her father does pay child support. He has never shown an interest to meet her. His parents wouldn't even come meet her ever because they didn't want to upset him. He finally let them meet her about 2 months ago. Well, he texted me on Monday evening saying he would like to meet her. I asked him why and he said " because she's my daughter? and i want to?" and i said we need to talk about some things first and he said "about?" and i said eveyrthing, i don't want you in and out of her life. he said " just saying, she is my daughter and i have the right to see her." i replied back saying " I'm telling you, it took you 2 years to want to even meet her, i don't want you in and outta her life."" he said "that's not entirely up toy. if i need, i can take this to court." i said "why because i don't want you in and out of her life? Chris, I have never kept her from you and I never plan to." He didn't respond the rest of the night, didn't even open it. I messaged him again the next evening saying " Hello? We can't find a date to meet if you don't respond." and he still hasn't responded or even read it, but i know he's been on cause it shows him liking his girlfriend posts.
I'm just really scared that he WILL take me to court and that he'll win more than just visitation with her. I have been the parent that has been responsible for her and taking care of her every need, paying for everything for her, paying for her dance and also taking her to dance every week. I've never spent a night away from her. Ever. I've got out with friends TWICE since she's been born, and the first time I just went to a Vikings game with my friends, otherwise i don't hang out with my friends unless i can bring her with and include her. I have never kept her from him, he's just never asked to see her and his parents haven't asked about her or asked to see her since they met her 2 months ago. I just don't want him to get 50/50 custody of her, and i don't want him to get every other weekend, at least not right away. This little girl is my world. I spend every second that I'm not at work with her. I'm stressing out a lot right now over all of this.