New To Site and having schooling issues

Heather A - posted on 09/19/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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HI! I'm Heather and after failing at non-communicating cyber schools, I put my two kids (12 &16) back into 'traditional' school. However, on the third week of school while giving my kids their anti-anxiety medication so they would and could go to school I realized there was something inherently wrong with the situation. To medicate our children so they'll leave the house and go to school where they're forced to do things they're not comfortable with, bullied by teachers and having judgment passed upon them by other children? I think not. Although I don't necessarily have the faith in myself to actually HOME SCHOOL my kids, I want to get back to Cybering but I'm unsure about that now after the issues we've faced.
I had done a general search on homeschool vs. cyberschool and found your site and I'm hoping to get lots of replies to this post, which do you think is better to get my age of kids through school, get a diploma IN CASE they want to do college someday, (although they both say no way), UNschooling them, teaching life as it is, cyber or home? Help!

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Jodi - posted on 09/20/2013

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I am not disputing that they are happier being homeschooled. I am suggesting that ANY child who is suffering that level of anxiety just going to school has some issues that should be addressed in ways other than being medicated. Your children are demonstrating signs that they can't cope in the "real world". It's quite one thing to homeschool, quite another to homeschool because your children don't cope in the real world. How are they going to cope with a job later in life if they can't even go to school without anxiety medication? Do you see my point? Have they ever had counselling for this?

Heather A - posted on 09/20/2013

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I respectfully but completely disagree. They were both given Hydroxyzine for anxiety while they were in school. All summer long, no meds. My son plays music at the local hospital with his grandfather, they walk around with their guitars and go room to room, playing for people, and they even go to the drug and alcohol rehab, and he is so much more comfortable with adults, either way. He has learned so much doing this. As for my daughter, she's what my mom calls 'my clinging vine,' and is happy being with me regardless. Ever since I pulled them from public school, they're happier, they're still learning, and no meds. The point of my question was to get opinions on homeschool vs. cyber school. Trust me, Jodi, I know my kids and there isn't anything more going on here. If there were, I'd know it. We have a very unique closeness in our family, my kids talk to me about everything, no matter what. And when my daughter comes home saying her teacher, "humiliated me in front of the whole class," and then didn't want to go to sleep that night because it meant waking up to see that teacher again in the morning, it's time to do something different.

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2013

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There is something inherently wrong if you have to medicate your children for anxiety full stop. If they are suffering THAT much anxiety, it isn't because of school alone. Sorry, but there is something underlying this. If this is how they are, how are they ever going to cope in real life situations? The medication isn't about school alone, no way.

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