Newborn Custody

Boycrazy919504 - posted on 08/09/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So a close friend of mine is about to have his first kid. The mother and him are not together anymore and have not been since around the first month. He has been to every Doctors app shes told him about and provided anything he can. Problem is (I don't know if it's hormones or just who she is as a person) she has been going crazy for most of the pregnancy. Sending him texts about how she's going to keep the baby from him if he doesn't do this or that. And told him that if he started dating someone she would make sure he never saw his baby ever. So here is where the question lies. Is there anyone who can help give him answers that can sooth him about the custody case about to come up? I have already tried to prepare him for the likelihood of him not getting main custody. He never had a problem with her keeping the baby for the first 6-8 months mainly because of BFing, but now since she found out that he has been seeing someone she is baring him from delivery (I know it's her right just sucks) and says she will delay paternity testing as long as possible so he can't see his baby for a while. Not sure how much she can actually do. But is there anyone out there that can help us? He doesn't want her to not see her child he just wants to know he can.

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Dove - posted on 08/09/2016

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I think Legal Aid is available in every state, but I don't know for sure...

Boycrazy919504 - posted on 08/09/2016

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That is the other issue. He does not have a lawyer yet because it is a big expense. The paternity test is a big deal because in the state of Texas her husband has legal custody of the child apparently even though he is in prison with out conjugal and has been for a year or so. Do you know of any where he could look for a inexpensive but good lawyer?

Dove - posted on 08/09/2016

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What does his lawyer say? I don't see anything in your post that would prevent her from having custody, but also nothing that would prevent him from having at least visitation and moving towards 50/50 custody when the child is a bit older.

He should have his lawyer all set to petition for a paternity test and visitation rights as soon as the child is born. It is definitely her right to not have him at the birth, but he may be able to get something legal to make sure he can visit the BABY after the birth.

Boycrazy919504 - posted on 08/09/2016

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Oh. In terms of case would any of this information be admissible; she messaged him a few times talking about how because he wouldn't come over and make love she had to smoke, she already has two kids with two different dads (not that that's a big deal just pointing facts), her current husband is in prison for some type of drug situation for the 4 or 5th time (he didn't know about the husband at the time they only dated for about 3 months), she does make less than he does and has worse hours. Or is there anything that you can think of that if it fits would help his case? I know im asking a lot of mothers to help me win parenting for the father, but I personally think he is a more stable parent for the baby about to be born, and that's all I want.

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