newly christian mommy needs help =)

Dakota McLachlan - posted on 06/06/2012 ( 38 moms have responded )

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I am a newly christian mommy, me and my now fiance are learning to llive for God. and in the bible it says to let the old self die. What can I do for my anger? I need help..

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Ingke - posted on 06/09/2012

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I have to say i had issues with getting wound up very quickly and i had to look at myself and asked myself why . Since then i have tried to let go a bit and give whatever bothers me to god . Sometimes i wash the dishes and just rumble along telling god what a day i had and i have to say it helps . One day i was so wound up about work and then my fiance didnt come to pick me up and i had to walk an hour to get home ... I was rumbling on about things whilst walking and by the time i got home my frustration and angriness was gone and i felt really happy ... I thought well maybe i was not meant to be picked up today because god knew i would have a bad day at work lol !!! Soo my conclusion is take a walk somewhere or anywhere if you feel frustrated and let it all out whilst walking !!!!

Cindy - posted on 06/08/2012

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look up all the scriptures in the bible on anger and write them down and study them until you learn what God has to say about it and it will help you,it helped me

Joyce - posted on 06/06/2012

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you should let go of your anger. Forgive like how Jesus did.
What's So Amazing With Grace by Philip Yancey is really a great book.
I have read it and understood forgiveness and grace more... and saw how both works. I hope you'd give it a shot. :) Bless God!

Imbeautifuldawn - posted on 06/13/2012

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Those of us who have been Christians for many years struggle with that too!
I hate to be so blunt, but I find I am angry when I am impatient or think that someone else *and not me) should surrender their rights instead of me!
So when I begin to feel angry, the first thing I do is ask myself if I am being selfish or unreasonable. If I am, I ask God to fogive, and I let go of it. If it is something where I am actually wronged, I ask myself if there is something I can do (calmly) to help the situation. Then I ask myself what is really important, pushing this idea or the relationship. If I cannot fix it, I give it to God and ask Him to fix it.and I LET IT GO!
The truth is that anger becomes something we hold on to. The sensation of anger becomes as familiar as a worn blanket. We get so used to it that we cannot imagine life without it. Time to let your worn blanket go. It isn't bringing you any joy.
Emmerse yourself in scripture -even if it is only a couple verses a day.
Get on your knees and ask God to help you! He doesn't want you to muddle through your life! He wants to give you direction and joy. Ask, ask, ask! That one thing is more important than anything!
And this will not be an overnight win! You need to keep trying!

Stifler's - posted on 06/11/2012

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Have you thought about anger management if you have anger issues?

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Lynette - posted on 08/06/2012

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I would say find an intimate support group where you can share and discuss your problem (preferably a church-based group that can aid in your Christian walk). Commune with nature; read your Bible; surround yourself with positive support.

Imbeautifuldawn - posted on 06/14/2012

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All of us face insecurities and are impatient from time to time. Someimes with insecurity it just takes time for the reality of WHO we are in Christ to soak in. Some of us grew up in families of believers and came to know Him at a young age and still struggle with it! You have to dispell. That one with God's truth. Satan doesn't want you to live invoctory and security! He will continue to whisper in your ear his lies about your value. But he cannot determine what you are worth neither can anything in this world. Are you gifted? Yes. Are you special? Yes. But your worth doesn't come from those thing either. You are valuable because Almighty God, the maker, the Ultimate says that you are WORTH HIS LIFE! THAT gives you value. You cannot lose it, you cannot eearn it. He values you. Period. And there is NOTHING you need that He cannot be or provide. He is a loving Father that longs to bless His children with good things! Your place in H
im is secure!
As to impatience, you need to attempt thinking from a different perspective. See if looking at things froom the other person's perspective helps.
As for jealousy, what is it you are jealous about,

Liz - posted on 06/13/2012

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We had a spiritual warfare conference at our church last fall, and one thing the speaker told us all would help us deal with our sins, was to personalize Romans 4. Rewrite it, so that every time "you" or "we" is used, you replace it with "I" or "me". Helps to really make things personal and realize how much God loves us and wants to help us get through rough times.

Janessa - posted on 06/13/2012

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Prayer is a powerful tool. Whenever I feel myself getting too angry I walk away and pray for inspiration in what to do. Heavenly Father continues to help me. He will help you too.

Ronda - posted on 06/13/2012

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Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Hang on to this verse! Your good enough. Your worthy! Through Jesus we are worthy. Everytime those feelings come, just dwell on this verse. Psalms is a great place to go to because it is there we see that God wants to protect us. To help us. To rescue us! Dwell on the word....it will drive those feelings out.

Repent and ask God for forgiveness when you mess up, even if it is 7 times a day. Then Dwell in the Word, and those feelings will disappear. Thank God for His promises, and Thank Him for what He has done, and for who you are in Him. ~hug~

Dakota McLachlan - posted on 06/13/2012

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Thank you Ronda and Dawn and everyone, that really makes sense...I have to really press into it more and not be so angry, The thing that really makes me angry is my impatience, my jealousies, and my insecurities....Those are the three things that make me angry..I always pray for help but sometimes it feels like God is Not listening to me right now...I feel not good enough sometimes...?

Liz - posted on 06/12/2012

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You're right, Ronda. I apologize. Sometimes my mouth (or rather, my hands in this case) gets the better of me!

Ronda - posted on 06/12/2012

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PLEASE STOP everyone with this silly debate that isn't helping her! It says in the bible
Ephesians 4:26
New King James Version (NKJV)
26 “Be angry, and do not sin”:[a] do not let the sun go down on your wrath...

ANGER is NOT a sin, but UNFORGIVENESS, which is almost always at the root of anger, is. As a Christian I know that anger can mire you down, and really hinder your walk with God. Not because He is mad, but because YOU close yourself off from Him when you hang onto bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness. ~hug~ Get in the Word, See what God says. There is an online bible that has a keyword search in it. Hope it helps! http://www.biblegateway.com/

Liz - posted on 06/12/2012

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Sins are not just included in the 10 commandments. There are many more. And there is such a thing as righteous anger, but I'm sure most of us don't have it :) I know I can't think of many times where my anger has been righteous.

For myself, I can't pinpoint a reason for my anger - just that things make me a lot more mad than they should. I have tried finding a source, and have come up with nothing. I have been praying that God will show me WHY I am so angry, so that I can begin to overcome it.

Angie - posted on 06/12/2012

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I have learned in my years of studies that patiences is the only way to really deal with these types of issues. Be slow to anger always works best.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/11/2012

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I'm not sure how it's a sin to be angry. It's not one of the Ten Commandments that Thou Shalt Not be Angry. Yes, I know it's a Cardinal sin (Anger, Lust, Greed, Gluttony, Envy and a few others-) but it's part of being human to be angry once in a while.

What exactly are you angry about?

Liz - posted on 06/11/2012

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Of course everyone gets angry at times - it is the anger that rules our lives that is a sin. I myself could use some help in this area. Sorry I can't really be of help...

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/11/2012

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Dakota, there's no way to not get angry whether or not you're Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Atheist ect ect,. We all get angry- we're humans not robots.

If you're trying to not let anger get the best of you then you should probably ask yourself why is it bothering you so much?

Lisa - posted on 06/11/2012

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What helps me is to remember that anger in itself is not sin, but if we allow the anger to control us and get us to do things that are sinful there in it becomes a sin. watch your actions when you get angry. Don't let them make you do things you will regret. Think and then act. I close my eyes, go over the whole situation and then move forward. Sometimes i have to leave the room completely. I always say a small prayer as soon as my anger hits me. All i say is "Dear LORD please help me through this and help me calm down and think" And he will instently help you, you just have to learn how to listen to him. Keep praying this prayer everytime you get angery and it will help you. It has helped me so much. And remember you are not alone out there. I am one of those too. :-) I really hope this will help i will pray for you as well it will all get better. GOD Bless You!!!

Pamela - posted on 06/10/2012

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Go to www.projecttapping.com. This is an easily done-at-home exercise that has been proven scientifically to heal many emotional blocks such as anger, fear of failure, fear of success, etc.

I have been using tapping for about 6 weeks now and I have seen breakthroughs in old patterns that I have have struggled with for years. Please do try this technique for healing many emotional patterns. The highest and best yo you!

Tracie - posted on 06/09/2012

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First not all anger is bad.
http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-libr...

If it is an anger that leads you to sin, then pray. I know you said you don't have the words when you pray. Luckily for you and for all of us, the Holy Spirit intercedes for us when we do not know how to pray.(Romans 8:28). Go to God with an open heart.....no words necessary and He will understand.

Katherine - posted on 06/09/2012

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Get in the Word and learn from others who have what you want to develop within yourself.

My suggestions to begin:
Joan Hunter is amazing!

Ronda - posted on 06/09/2012

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Oh, I forgot something else proactive to try: thankfulness busts any feelings of negativity, selfishness, and unforgiveness. :)

Ronda - posted on 06/09/2012

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Most of the time a lot of residual anger is leftover after we have been hurt. The bible is clear that we need to forgive. It is not an easy task, but with God's help it is possible. Ask for help in forgiving and read scriptures that deal with forgiveness, but remember, God loves you, and He sees your progress. Do not let yourself be mired with guilt.
Romans 8:1
[ Free from Indwelling Sin ] There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

Matthew 6:14
New King James Version (NKJV)
14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

2 Corinthians 2:8-11
8 Therefore I urge you to reaffirm your love to him. 9 For to this end I also wrote, that I might put you to the test, whether you are obedient in all things. 10 Now whom you forgive anything, I also forgive. For if indeed I have forgiven anything, I have forgiven that one[a] for your sakes in the presence of Christ, 11 lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices.

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2012

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Are you pluged into a strong, growing, vibrant church? Are you in a small group? Are you children in a children's ministry @ church? Believers are meants to be a part of the "body" of christ. The best advice I can give you is find a strong church, get pluged in, start serving in the church alongside other growing Christians & believers and lean on them, seek discipleship from them, pray regularly with them, read your Bible regularly together, and be vulnerable with one another. We are not meant to go at this life alone. We are to be a body of believers that support, encourage, build up, and equip each other! Not sure where you are located, but I will pray that you are able to get connected with other believers that can help you along as you grow in your walk with the Lord!!

Katrina - posted on 06/09/2012

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Hi Dakota, I had alot of difficulty with anger also.Anger stems from things that bother us but sometimes the issue is not why we're angry right now, but rather,why we got soooo angry over such a little thing. What helped me in understanding where all my anger was coming from, was reading a book called"A New You By Friday" by Dr Kevin Lehman. It's amazing the things you learn about yourself. He is a christian trained as a psychologist and has heaps of credentials. He has raised a family of his own and also has a book "A New Kid By Friday" which is also great. Being a christian does mean dying to your old self, but sometimes that takes time. My understanding is, the more time you spend with Him, in prayer, in worship, and reading His Word, the closer your relationship with Him. Jesus died to give us mercy, so ask for forgiveness and remembering to forgive others too, as this can often stunt our christian growth. Don't beat yourself up if you're not a "perfect" christian - on;y Jesus can do that. God Bless xxx

Mercy - posted on 06/09/2012

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hi please watch or download a message by Andrew Wommack called, Selfishness, the root of all grief. It helped me and many swear it changed their lives. go to www.awmi.net .Its free to download

Zoe - posted on 06/08/2012

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This is actually a pagan ritual (usually candles instead of a stove though) and it works very well if you believe it, just like anything of faith. @ Dakota, I hope you get control of her anger (it's a tough one) with hopefully a lot of support from loved ones !!! Good luck and take into consideration all advice given, but do the right thing for you. Maybe it a combo of things, maybe it's something you come up with on your own or your families help. Surround yourself with positive love and you will be a-ok

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/08/2012

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Dakota, the writing it down and burning it is my method. The writing disperses the anger with the words, and the burning releases it.

I think if it as a physical demonstration of giving it to God to handle.

God bless, and stay strong. This takes baby steps (pardon the pun) but you can do it!

Dakota McLachlan - posted on 06/08/2012

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Wow!! THank you all for your replies, I have been reading the Bible everyday..and It really does help!! Things for me have been amazing ever since I started living for God!! I have changed my ways completely but my anger gets me a step back and Its hard for me to not be angry!!! THe littlest things drive me crazy!! But thank you all for your replies...

Deanna - posted on 06/08/2012

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One thing I was told to do is to write down all your anger. Everything that made and make you angry. Write it all down. It doesn't matter if it is 1 page or a hundred. Write it all down. Then burn it. It is a way of cleansing the spirit.

Sylvia - posted on 06/08/2012

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Hi Dakota..... when I was a younger Christian, I learned to identify what it was that pushed my "anger button", which also helped me to understand why I was really getting angry. Sometimes we have a deeper reason for our anger, but something seemingly small may tip you over the edge. With each of us, if may be something different. I found that I would get very angry when I felt undermined by others, or when I felt I was being under-estimated, or if I was made to feel belittled. To deal with it, I really needed the help of God, because while He was dealing with the deeper reasons behind my anger, I still had to deal with the anger itself. I found the best thing I could do was to walk away from the situation, take the time to calm down and not respond to the situation or person involved until I had calmed down. Walking away, saved me from hurting others in my life, and God slowly began to heal the parts of me that felt like I was nothing and insignificant. Once I had dealt with my own insecurities, I began to realise that that "anger button" no longer existed. As I said, anger comes from different places with each of us, but it does help to recognise it's source. Secondly as a new Christian it is so important to spend time reading the Word of God, because it helps you to retrain your mind and your emotions to understand who God says you are, and how much He loves you no matter what. Every time you pick up the Bible and read it, it is like medicine to your spirit and to your soul. Reading it, even if you don't always understand everything perfectly, will bring so much growth into your relationship with God, and if you do this on a regular basis it will change your life.....because the Bible is God speaking to you, it contains every answer to every problem, it acts as God's mirror to show you who you are now that you are His child, it also shows you what rights and privileges you have as a child of God. The Word of God is the foundation of your relationship with Him, and is always your help in times of need. God bless you, and I truly believe that as you grow in your relationship with Him that He is more than able to help you overcome your struggles.

Dakota McLachlan - posted on 06/07/2012

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Thank you so much for that, I think I will do that, because I do have lots of anger and I can't seem to find the words when I pray..so thank you so much. God Bless

Jennifer - posted on 06/06/2012

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Try writing it down on strips of paper. Then light a fire in the grill and have a burning ceremony. Let the fire consume the anger and carry your worries to God. If you feel it trying to return, remember your ceremony and the fact that you gave it to God to deal with. It is no longer yours. HUGS! Welcome to the Family!

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