Newly Single Mom of Twins

Becky - posted on 08/30/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I too am a single mom of twins and it is reassuring to hear that I am not the only one and that the problems I am facing are similar to others. Mine are currently five weeks old and if it wasn't for the support of my family coming over and helping when they can, I don't know what I would do. Just having someone to talk to and the company is often what I need. While it is nice to get out of the house once in awhile, I do like having family/friends over just to talk to. I am currently fighting for custody of the babies; the father wants joint physical custody and I feel they are too young to get bounced from house to house. I feel that they need to establish a regular schedule/routine first. He of course doesn't understand this, he wants what he wants. Everything is all about him. I have thought about moving back in with my parents for a few months or at least until the babies are sleeping more through the night. It will be a lot for my parents to take on but I plan to do as much as I can of course. Again, it is more about having the extra people around to reassure me that I am going to be okay in the end.


Taylor - posted on 08/30/2013




I had twin boys almost 9 months ago and the father was sent to jail when they were just 3 months old. It was extremely hard on me for a while but I moved in with my parents again to help make things work.

You need to do what you feel is right.
You are definitely right on with not wanting your babies to be moved from house to house when they are so little. Once they have an established routine and are old enough to understand why they are being moved from house to house I think it would be OK to have joint custody (As long as you feel safe) but until then.. you should keep the babies with you because they need security.
I also think you should move back in with your parents again. It will be a lot on your parents but I'm sure they wouldn't mind as they will be able to see their grandchildren every day. When I moved back in with my parents it was such a huge weight lifted off me and now I almost always have help.

Good luck!

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