Angellyyyy - posted on 04/29/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
With ex for 1.5 yrs. He was living with me for 1yr. He has 2 Little girls from a failed relationship ( HS sweetheart).
We planned our pregnancy, engagement, etc. Found out we were pregnant Dec 2014, found out its a boy ( what he always wanted) March 2015.
I never met his other kids until recently: his reasoning has changed from- he wanted to wait til our 1yr (was in Jan), to he wanted to make sure our rocky relationship stabalized until I met them. That made sense until we were planning to concieve back in OctNov.
Recently, he sent me a text that seemed more for his daughters mom than me ( using a nickname he calls his kids), and I went off about it and asked hin to stay at his mothers a few days ( something he does frequently when he gets angry).
He tried dumping me over the voicemail then. I told him lets see how we both feel a week from then. We decided to work things out, and then we got into an argument after I met his daughters and their mother two weeks later. That was when I learned he still wasnt ready for me to meet his daughters even though Im carrying their sibling.
I asked for space again- and he broke up with me, saying he was tired of me questioning him.
Fast Forward A week: we have been talking about our son. He got upset that I wasnt giving him attention- he also asked if there was ever a chance of us getting back together. I told him Hell no.
He was then coming over to get the rest of his belongings.
We ended up talking about things and he rubbed my belly.
He got angry when I stated that our son would have both last names, since he is being raised in two households. He Said that Im insulting him and that I always get what I want since Im the "Mother".
Ive tried negotiating visitation to accomodate him, he never had feedback with times other than "If I have gas money ". I tried to explain that if I were to get married my Name would drop off and the child Would Still Have His last Name.
He Has Gotten More Aggressive- showing Up Uninvited since We Both Said Some Not So Nice Things in This Argument ( him saying that I never loved him...me telling him to grow up).
Sorry this is long but I was wondering if anyone Else Has Given Their Son Both Last Names?
Im Still Looking To Do So