Lynne - posted on 12/02/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
My oldest daughter is 39. She seems to fit the pattern of a narcissist.
No matter what I have done for her it was never enough. She has always been jealous of her younger sister. They are 5 1/2 years apart. For over 10 years I've been given the silent treatment for months at a time however it is almost a year since I have talked to her. She won't answer my phone calls or text messages. Her dad has been our go between as she will talk to him when he is on his cell phone but he doesn't question her behavior. He doesn't like confrontations.
Her in laws have had issues too. She didn't invite them to the wedding as she was afraid they would either drink too much, or pull some kind of prank on them. I think she has tried harder for them ever since.
Last year I helped her by babysitting and driving my grandsons to and from school, a week at a time, as she lives an hour away. I had them all over as well as my son in law's parents for Thanksgiving. We weren't invited for Christmas but could come visit a couple of days later, which was the last time we saw her or for the most part, our grandsons.
From what I have been reading, it doesn't sound like it will ever change. She has been treated for depression for many years and we have both gone through counseling quite a few times. Has anyone ever had times turn around?