Tyrae - posted on 02/28/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )




My daughter is 3.5 months old and she does quite well with sleeping. The only problem I have is that she will go to sleep at 11:30 pm. She'll sleep till about 5-7 am, wake up to eat and get a diaper change, than go back down again till 9 am. She'll wake up, eat again and get another diaper change and go back down again till about 11 am. Than she's up for about 3-4 hours before her next nap. I want to get her to go down to sleep before 11:30 pm. My hubby goes to bed around 9 and I would love to be able to go to bed around the same time as he does so we can cuddle and such.

We don't get a lot of time with her sleeping when she does, and it would be nice to be able to be intimate without having to worry that the toy we gave her to entertain herself with stops doing its job after a short period of time.

I know I shouldn't be complaining since most people don't get a full nights sleep at all with their babies this age, but my hubby has really started pestering me, and truth be told I'd love to be able to do things with him too.

So how do I get her to go to bed earlier in the day? Say around 8-9 would be good for her to go down for the night. It doesn't bother me that I'll be up at 3 instead of 7 to feed her. Any suggestions would be great right now. We don't have a set bedtime routine, and I'm not quite sure how to go about setting one up if that would help at all.

EDIT: I am NOT willing to do the cry-it-out method. It's not something I personally feel a baby should be put through so please don't suggest that. It won't be done.


Catherine - posted on 02/28/2011




This is definitely something you can do without any crying. As the other posters said, the best way to do it is to adjust her naps, but to do that, you're going to need to wake her up a little earlier each day (The unfortunate side effect of going to bed earlier is getting up earlier). For example, tomorrow morning, wake her up at 8:30 and adjust her whole schedule back by 30 minutes and so on. You may end up with a slightly cranky baby in the morning, but 30 minutes shouldn't be so much that she's unbearable (if it is, then you can do it in 15 minute increments). Good luck.

Krista - posted on 02/28/2011




When my son was tiny he was up til 11 too, because I figured I'd rather stay up late than wake up super early. Once he started sleeping longer, I slowly started adjusting bedtime by half an hour early every couple of nights. He didn't even realize the difference so there was no fighting it (I don't believe in cry it out either!) A routine may help too. We do a bath before bed, then story time.


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Kim - posted on 03/03/2011




tell your husband to frow up! there will be plenty of time for him when shes sleeping normal hours again. Hes and adult and should just deal with it.

Leisa - posted on 03/01/2011




Please note I have a full time job as well at a busy firm and still manage to do this - it is possible. I have a live in care person through the day and i take over at 5pm. So it is indeed possible even with a hectic work schedule, and you will even have time with the husband at the end of it all.

Leisa - posted on 03/01/2011




I found letting my babies find their own sleep pattern, just like demand feeding, worked the best, it avoids all sorts of problems as infants and as they have grown their pattern has regulated even my 11 month old who settles at about 7 in the evening. Sometimes she sleeps during the day sometimes she doesn't. Kids have their adult lives to be on schedules and routines - I'm not a hippy or anything like that, but I just found that if i put them to sleep (god forbid i cuddled them to sleep) when they wanted they slept better and through the night longer. I just feel some of the more 'modern' thinkings are a bit incompatible towards the children. Maybe Im just too much of a compassionate mother to let them scream! Our mothers all rocked us to sleep in her arms and it didnt do us any harm.

Kelly - posted on 03/01/2011




i have a 4mth old. he already on solids at 3mth milk wasnt enough and he has his last solids for day around 4-6pm bottle at about 8.30-9.30 and its bedtime til anywhere between 4-6am (depends how lucky we are :) the fuller they are when they go to bed the longer they will last. thats why the solids helped and starting at 3mth he was only having bout 2tsp, so bit of extra food might help her sleep longer but i would say the reason she waiting so long to go to sleep is her day routine isnt working for her so try changing that a lil as in maybe not have the 9am sleep but a play for bit longer then get all her nap times to change lil bit slowly its just for her she pretty much is in set sleeping times so thats what u need to change and to help get to sleep at 9ish give her a warm bath around 8 then have bottle ready for her when gets out and should be settled for bed around 9, just a suggestion always settles my boys down, it might take a wk to work it out but just play around with times a lil and youl figure out what works for yous, good luck

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You can try to guide her towards a more suitable schedule by slowly adjusting her napping times (try putting her down 15 minutes earlier each day and waking her 15 minutes earlier too). No guarantees and it'll take a few weeks, but it might help.

Melissa - posted on 02/28/2011




You need to put your baby on a schedule right now!! This is what I did when my son woke up at around 5 or 6 am I changed his diaper and gave him a bottle. He went back to sleep and woke up around 8 or 9 that was a feeding with bath and diaper change a little play and then back down for nap I would wake him up around 12 noon and feed play while and let him sit up for awhile then a nap he would wake up around 3-4 get a bottle and play and let him stay up until around 8. I would give him a bath and feed him before he went down for the night. You just have to schedule according to what you what her to do, I wanted my son to sleep through Y&R so that's what his nap time was but you will be suprised they will go to sleep like clock work once you get them on a schedule. How that helps!!!

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