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June - posted on 08/17/2016 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I am new here so sorry if I am doing something wrong. My daughter Susan doesn't seem to have friends... is that normal?

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Michelle - posted on 08/22/2016

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My son that is 8 years old is the same way. He keeps to himself even when we are at home. He always wants to be in the bedroom by himself on the phone on YouTube watching kids videos. Me and my fiancé try to get him to come out in the living room and watch a movie with us but he says no and goes right back into the bedroom. When he was in school last year I asked him who his friends were and he said he didn't have any friends. I don't know if it's because he's slower than the rest of the kids in his classroom and he feels lost or what?

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June - posted on 08/24/2016

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I do agree Sarah that it shouldn't be permitted at her age... Now I see. I did wanted to sign her up to dance classes but she didn't wanted. I saw that she's feeling anxious there, she's afraid being let alone with the teacher and other children... she's very shy.

Michelle, let me know please how's your son going to do with the school psychiatrist.

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2016

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I don't even know where to get help he's already seeing a psychiatrist for his school.

Sarah - posted on 08/23/2016

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Even though it may be tough to tell her no more phone; it really would be the right choice. She is only 7. My kids don't even get a phone until 14 (except a cheap tracfone that I leave with my youngest when she is at soccer practice). If she can't self-entertain and does not want to play with other kids on her own, then sign her up for dance class, soccer, art or whatever. Keeping her busy and around kids who enjoy the same sort activity may spark a few friendships. Nothing wrong with not socializing, but screen time at 7 should be very, very limited if permitted at all.

June - posted on 08/23/2016

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as in reply to Shawnn, thank you... but you know.. it is kinda hard... especially taking in consideration how she's acting thereafter and she always tell me that children her age are playing and watching YT videos either at their parents phones. And I did have seen that it is true... i've seen other children doing the same.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/22/2016

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Part of the problem has been revealed. STOP letting your phone babysit! Of course the child is not interested in human interaction, she's got your PHONE!!!

Sarah - posted on 08/22/2016

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Well the thing about being an introvert, and maybe that is not the right word exactly, is I has always just been content with my own company. I had friends, I did date and do social activities. I also was very busy athletically and academically. I just never really felt like I had to be around other people. On the weekends I was perfectly fine to be home. I never felt like I had to be around people. I still am like that; I am married with four kids and I am happy and have friends but I am not a social butterfly.
I'd talk to your daughter and ask her if she is content. I don't think the electronics at her age are a great idea. I was a busy child, dance, sports and farm life; so I couldn't just sit in front of the TV.

June - posted on 08/22/2016

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Not sure what exactly I should say... she does socialize a bit when she's in kindergarden but her teacher told me that she's not really active and not really talking much to other children. she's going to be in her first school grade in a few weeks and I am afraid that she won't have friends. The thing is that as soon as she gets home, she does nothing than playing on my phone. as soon as I am not allowing her to play on the phone she's.... she's like not feeling herself... Sarah E... how the fact that you were an introvert affected you when you were a teenager/mature?

Sarah - posted on 08/20/2016

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Does she get along with kids at school or spend all her time alone? Does she want friends? I am an introvert by nature and while I got along with kids at school just fine I had no desire to have playdates etc. I was content to be by myself. Maybe if you could elaborate a bit we can give better advice?

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