Ashley - posted on 01/19/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
So my husband and I have been married almost 3 years. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage who do not live with us. My husband and I have a 6 month old girl. I'm 25 he's 23.
He works full time and I'm a stay at home mom. Well my husband had never been interested in sex and I don't get why. When we first met he was 19 and I thought he was just being sweet and a gentlemen. Well he still isn't interested in sex. He tells me to stop every time I try and start something. I can't blame it on having a young baby she is so good. We get alot of sleep and we have no issues of time. He says he's always tired or he has a headache. Normally to me it's the other way around that men always want it and women are sometimes making the excuses. I try to communicate with him we need to have this bonding time so that never works. Communication isn't the issue
He uses sex against me or as a game. Example if you run my back I'll have sex with you. Of course I do and I never get mine. I tell him to stop using it against me but he doesn't listen. Here late he'd rather play games on his phone. It's gotten so bad that he doesn't sit near me hold my hand he doesn't really touch me at all. I don't need sex every day I just want that bonding time every so often. He says I act like a bitch to him and always complain. Well I'm usually asking him to get off his phone or to help me but he never does. I don't feel like I'm being a bitch nor am I trying to be. He makes jokes about my weight from time to time since I gained a little or he says stuff like we'll they don't have to go home with you and then he always says o I'm only joking. I tell him he doesn't need to say that to begin with. But then he says I can't take a joke. I'm not really sure what to do anymore. He tells me he loves me but I never see it anymore. I've tried it all. Trying not to complain letting him do his own thing doing what he wants communication I brought up counseling he said no its no one's business. We can go for months without sex...it's been about a year he wouldn't have sex while I was pregnant at first I wasn't aloud to I had some complications but at around 6 months I was cleared to have sex again...we had sex once since my daughter was born. And since we never do when we finally have sex he rushes everything he kisses me a few times says get on and it lasts no lie about 30 seconds...I'm totally lost on what to do...help...