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River - posted on 04/15/2015
Again, not much to go by. But if your child's father is not a danger to the child then I don't see why you wouldn't want to reach an agreement such as joint physical and legal custody. Instead of fighting as to who gets the kid 100% of the time, decide on 50% for both.
Raye - posted on 04/15/2015
Jennifer, since you asked about "other step mothers that made it through", I'm guessing it's your SO's child with his ex. Is that correct? If you're the step-mother, then just support your partner and love the kids. You shouldn't be involved in much of the "battle". You could try to help your partner be more reasonable so it is not so "high conflict" and can be resolved quicker and with less stress on all persons involved.
Jodi is right, though. Even after the "battle" is over there will still be interaction with both parents and things that will happen that you don't agree with. You and your partner can't rightly dictate to the other parent what their home situation might be, and they should not try to dictate how you run your home. It's easier on the kids if there are similar rules and such, but you can't count on it. Just try to help the kids adjust as best as you can.
Sarah - posted on 04/15/2015
I have not personally dealt with custody issues. I have had many students that have been in the middle of all sorts of custody disputes. When the parents can put aside their personal animosity and focus on co-parenting peacefully the kids fair better in every aspect.
Why is your custody battle "high-conflict"? Unless your child is in danger with the father, why would you not want a peaceful resolution?
Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2015
I would love to hear from other step mothers that made it through, and how and if things got better/calmer after it was over. Those that have gone through a high conflict custody battle will know exactly what I mean. This is my first time ever chatting online so bare with me. :)
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