No support system

Santana - posted on 02/12/2017 ( 7 moms have responded )

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There is so much I want to do and places I would like to go but how can I if I have outside support. Im a mother of two boys, one which is special needs. The only help I get is from their dad and dad has a life too. Other than him I have no one. People always tell me I need a vacation, or I need to get out more but HOW?

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Fatima - posted 6 days ago

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I had similar issues two years ago. I gave myself a break by actually taking the little ones out. I try to pencil in time at the playground three times a week. We usually do one or two, and that's enough for us since I work from home.

The time we spend outdoors really helps the kids and I break up our day. Most of our time out is running errands, so they appreciate the little things.

Another thing that helped me was not listening to what others thought I needed. You know what your family needs, and even if you don't have the support of others closeby, you can always depend on yourself. Take 5-10 minutes every morning and do something you love. Read, go for a walk, sit and have breakfast.. whatever it is.

I hope this helps.

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Fatima Torres
Family & Lifestyle blogger at motherhoodthroughmyeyes.com

Sarah - posted 6 days ago

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Toni has a great idea. Sometimes just having some quiet time can really recharge your battery.

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Toni - posted on 02/13/2017

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I hear ya. My in laws are pretty much useless and my own family lives far, far away, across the country. We haven't had a date since we had the kids, 9 years ago. Seriously. But you know what we do? We put the kids to bed and play monopoly and watch movies once a month. My husband works out of town 5 days a week, our days off do not match, so I'm burned out. Winter really gets me because we're all cooped up inside, everyone is getting on everyone's last nerve. So I guess I can't help you, sorry. We try to do stuff together every weekend, hiking, beach, fishing, zoos, museums, keeps the kids entertained enough I can usually relax a little bit, read a book.

Santana - posted on 02/12/2017

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Yes dad is around and sometimes he do watch them so I can have some me time but that's very far in between because our shifts are different and off days are different. We haven't been on a date in YEARS. I guess I'll have to try to look into caregiver that is also comfortable with special needs child. Im just so over protective.

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2017

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Are you in a relationship with their dad? If so, can you hire a caregiver for a night so the two of you can go out? If not, then why can't he watch the kids one weekend a month for you to get a break?

Santana - posted on 02/12/2017

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My parents passed. My mom when i pregnant with my first and my dad 3 years ago. I have not Aunts or Uncles on my mom side and my dad side they are very unfit. My brother and sister are much older than me and we never really had an relationship. My brother is a US Marshall and doesnt live in the same state as me and he's always busy and my sister is also an officer and a grandmother. She barely have time for her grandson. IDK what to do.

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