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Bron - posted on 09/11/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I feel devastated that my 16 yr old son chose to live with his father in the family home, and never stays over with me . Anyone else going through this? I feel like my hearts been ripped out :(

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Guest - posted on 09/12/2014

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Has he ever lived with dad before?
Sometimes they just need to see for themselves that the grass is not actually as green as it looks on the other side.....it's the slanted perspective that makes it look that way.

If you are truly the better place for him, and you've fostered a strong relationship with him built on integrity and trust, give him a few months and he will come back. If he doesn't, maybe dad's home is where he needs to be, but you can still have a valuable relationship with him.

Ev - posted on 09/12/2014

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I have a similar situation but the opposite wants in my son. He would rather live with me though now as a senior it would not be good to have to up and change schools in the final year as he is getting the classes he wants/needs to graduate. If he were to move in with me now and change schools there is no guarentee he would have those same or similar classes. He loves to come and be with me. Have you and your son a common interest? Find something. A lot of the reason he might want to be with dad is because dad is a male. He does need the time with his father to learn what his father can teach him about becoming a man. As for not wanting to stay with you, I am not sure how to answer that one. But maybe you could talk to him and find out why.

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