Liz - posted on 08/19/2015 ( 22 moms have responded )
I do not want an argument, just some insight on a non-custodial parent claiming the child on taxes. I realize the custodial parent pays for MANY MANY things, but the non-custodial (my husband) also pays for many things. He pays/provides the following:
* $500.00 monthly in child support (weekly payments are taken out of his check)
* Has let the bio mother use his credit card for gas, gifts, and other purchases
* Delivers groceries when the bio mom says she is out of money
* On longer stays (3 weeks to a month), she keeps the payments, and does not provide a cent. He doesnt ask any questions, just enjoys his time with his son
* Bio mom had in the past, told him he had to pay for their rent. My husband did so, and lived at his sister's home for an extended period of time because he could not afford his rend AND her rent. This was later clarified and discontinued by the judge, who said there was no basis for him paying her rent and child support at the same time.
* My husband pays for school clothes
SO, my question is, would it be fair for my husband to be able to claim his son on his taxes ONCE? Our home is considerably smaller than theirs, we do not take vacations EVER for lack of funds (well once for our honeymoon that was paid by several family members).
Our lack of funds are not due to child support. That is not what I am saying. It is his responsibility and I wouldnt be with a man who didnt support his son. BUT, we cant catch a break? Her job pays more than our jobs.
She has said that it is not possible for a non-custodial parent to ever claim the child. But, and maybe I am being a b*tch, but we would like a chance at seeing some of the money back. Am I crazy for wondering this? They've gone on 4-5 cruises with the tax returns, so it's not like the money is a life-line for her. For us, tax returns mean just that - a life-line.
We NEVER discuss money issues with his son. That wouldnt be fair, but his son has brought it up in the past several years about how even when she has money, she will ask for more, then spend more cash on extra's. I take what he says with a grain of salt. He is only 16 years old and may not fully understand the situation, but still. For example, she had him buy groceries for his son. He did not ask where the child support went, he just filled their refrigerator, and felt proud that his son welcomed him with a huge smile and "Thank you dad!". I was even worried for his son. The every-other weekend visit followed 2 days later, and (I couldnt help myself) looked at her twitter account. She posted pictures of a trip to NY (tour etc) that very weekend! I looked it up because his son mentioned it and I wanted to scream, but bit my tongue.
With her comfortable life, and the fact that he pays for other things aside from child support (frequently), the bio mom shouldnt cut the dad a break at least ONE time?
I welcome productive feedback from both bio and stepmoms.