Non-offending parent in child sexual abuse

Belva - posted on 05/17/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My relationship with my daughter, who was sexually abused 30 years ago by my husband, her stepfather, is in ruins because of the therapeutic assumption at the time that mothers were in collusion with the perpetrator. I need help in finding a therapist near my home in San Antonio, Texas, who is aware of the recent research studies that have turned this assumption around. I hope it is not too late for me and my daughter because she does not trust me any more.

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Katie - posted on 10/20/2014

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Most books I've read that are intended to help the victim point the finger at the mother. It seems ridiculous that they so blatantly do that. I do think any good counselor would NOT automatically point the finger at you and work with you both to improve your relationship. Good luck!

Tanya - posted on 05/17/2014

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I've never heard to a therapist pinpointing anyone involved that was not involved...

As a matter of fact therapist mostly let you speak and then try to help you solve, figure out and realize a solution to the problem and/or help you figure out your feelings. They do not tell you what happened you tell them.

I think if your daughter has trouble trusting you it will take a lot more than a therapist to get you through this.

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