Nose Ring

Jacqueline - posted on 08/05/2009 ( 97 moms have responded )

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How do you Moms feel about a tiny diamond nose piercing for 12 year old girl will be 13 in October? NEED help! Not sure what to do.

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My nose was pierced for many years. I had it while I worked a number of different jobs and all throughout my first pregnancy.



Facts about nose piercings:



-They really don't hurt. My ears hurt FAR worse than having my nose pierced. It was a tiny pinch, then my eyes started watering like crazy. I didn't even flinch. On a pain scale of 1 to 10, I'd give it about a 1 (if that).

-Keeping it clean is very easy. Basically, you take it out, clean it in the antiseptic the piercer will provide, wash around the hole, and put it back in.

-It takes a little while to heal completely, but it's painless. And, there is NO blood. If there's blood, then the piercer did something wrong. It took my nose less time to heal than my ear piercings. As long as it's kept clean, and the piercer has used the proper instruments it WON'T get infected. If your girl can keep her ears clean, she can keep her nose piercing clean! It's the exact same process.

-If she does get it done, be 100% comfortable with your piercer. Ask questions. Make sure they're using the right equipment. For example, back in the day, the jewelry of choice was surgical steel. Most piercers now are using titanium or gold because it won't rust at all. Just know your facts before you go in. Make SURE it's a reputable piercer, and not someone just starting out.

-IF it scars, it will be a TINY scar. My nose has been closed for nearly 5 years now, and there is no scar. My eyebrow has a TINY (pinpoint tiny) scar, that no one even notices unless they are close up and I mention it. Same with my lip...pinpoint scar that is nearly invisible. On my tongue, there is absolutely no mark or scar of any kind.



Again, a girl having a nose ring does not put her in any sort of 'group'. Generalizing is not fair. She is her own person, wanting to express herself. Piercings are a form of physical expression...exactly the same as having earrings. It's jewelry. Heck, even putting on makeup is modifying your outward appearance.

Kate CP - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Missy :






Quoting Davona:

children need parents. They need parents who have boundries and show love by enforcing such boundries. Kids can get their own friends :)






And your daughter moved out why????????????????? If your kid cant see you as a friend then what good are you as a parent! My father was a friend to me during my teens and it made getting through them hard years alot easier. My mother on the other hand had the same attitude as you and, well lets just say we dont have a  great relationship like I do with my dad!









 





Well, I think all kids as KIDS need parents. My mother didn't become my friend until after I had moved out and married. Now she is one of my closest friends and confidents. But it was her guidance and love, her PARENTING that made me the woman I am today. I had friends growing up...I needed a mom and I'm thankful I had one.

Kate CP - posted on 08/13/2009

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She may or may not reconsider after learning about the ancient traditions surrounding nostril piercings. From wikipedia.org:

..."Nostril piercing is a body piercing practice often associated with Nepal and India. In Northern India the outside of the left and in Southern India the outside of the right nostril is the preferred position of the piercing as this is supposed to make childbirth easier. This is because Ayurvedic medicine associates this location with the female reproductive organs. In India piercings were regarded as a mark of beauty and social standing as well as a Hindu's honor to Parvathi the goddess of marriage in the 16th century. Nose piercing is still popular in India. It also remains popular in Middle Eastern and Arab countries. Pakistani people do this with a small diamond only, rather than a small hoop..."

I have a tattoo of Kokopeli on my right bicep. If I wasn't wanting kids I probably WOULDN'T have done that as Kokopeli is the Hopi symbol of fertility. Tattooing a fertility god on your body is not a good idea if you don't want kids. ;)

Personally I have to problem with most body piercings so long as they don't interfere with dress codes at school. It's a much better alternative to a tattoo, scar (using scalpels to carve a design in the flesh), or brand. Also, if it's a "rebellion" thing and you let her do it...it voids the rebellious part of it.

Joanne - posted on 08/13/2009

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I personally don't care for the look but also don't see it as indicating rebellion issues. Back in the day I had extra holes in my ears which is a big yawn now. There are so many people that have facial piercings & is actually very commonplace. The only concern I would have is that she understands how to take care of it.

Holly - posted on 08/08/2009

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HI, I think if she wants it for the right reasons then why not? Im a mom of 2, and I have my nose peirced, its a small diamond. I have no problems with jobs, if an employer wants it covered up they have retainers which is basically a clear plastic stud, almost undetectible. I find most employers do not mind and I have never not been taken seriously for it. In a few years when my daughter is old enough and wants one of her own, if its not just to fit in or be cool or be like me and she really just likes it, then I will be all for it.But in the end it is up to you mom, so go with your gut! Good luck

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Nina - posted on 12/02/2012

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In my opinion, it's ridiculous to even consider letting a 13 year old have a nose piercing. There are some things that should be left until a bit later in life. My daughter is 17 and doesn't have a single body piercing yet. One reason is that she was with me when I had my nose pierced and just watching the procedure put her off. Does your daughter know that having your nose pierced properly (with a needle) is very painful, there's no anaesetic, and that the aftercare has to be very rigorous to avoid infections? Its something you might want to talk to her about.

Wendy - posted on 12/02/2009

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I think there is a time and a place for everything. I also think that she will have plenty of time to change things about her appearance. But for right now, support her by allowing her to be the beautiful child she is that doesn't need any extra ornaments to enhance her beauty! Good luck.

Lynda - posted on 08/16/2009

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Hi Jacqueline

I am a mother of 2 grown children and a grandmother of a 3 year old. My daughter had piercings but did not get them until she was 17, I personally think you should wait till she is alittle older she just might grow out of it by then.

Lesley - posted on 08/14/2009

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hmmmm jacqueline i dont like being branded to a certain group cos i have a nose piercing and tattoos !!!!! and i did my nose piercing myself lol !!! but for children at that age to have facial piercings my girls will be waiting till there 16 to decide they can have ears done thats as far as it goes ! if you allow a nose piercing at 13 what happens when she wants her lip done at 14 !!!! theres no argument because you allowed the other piercing on the face and im not sure schools would be that appreciative of it !



and to everyone else who said if you have a nose ring youl have touble getting a job !! i have a ring in my nose and has never prevented me in getting jobs people dont tend to nitice a nose piercingif its small it becomes part of your face :)

Tamara - posted on 08/13/2009

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As long as she can care for it and actually wants it, I don't see a problem in getting it for her.

Missy - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Davona:

children need parents. They need parents who have boundries and show love by enforcing such boundries. Kids can get their own friends :)



And your daughter moved out why????????????????? If your kid cant see you as a friend then what good are you as a parent! My father was a friend to me during my teens and it made getting through them hard years alot easier. My mother on the other hand had the same attitude as you and, well lets just say we dont have a  great relationship like I do with my dad!





 

Missy - posted on 08/13/2009

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I pierced my nose when I was 15 and am now 30, It is still open and I stopped wearing a stud in it when I was 20. It is in the crease of my nostril and just looks as though it is a blackhead or an open pore not too attractive if you decide you no longer want it. For me it was a phase with the whole piercing thing. I dont regret doing it.

Kendra - posted on 08/13/2009

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I got my daughters nose done at 13 for a bday present cuz she wanted it and guess what she doesn't have it today at 17. She never went wild didn't have a belly lip or eyebrow one done and she doesn't have a hole or scar, so I say let her and you can use new rings for it as a way to get her to do things Lol. She will outgrow it and if she doesn't so what their are small after all.

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I'm 39 years old as of yesterday...I have my ears pierced several times and have had my nose pierced now for about 5 years...I have a 10 year old daughter and personally..wouldn't let her at the age of 12 or 13 get her nose pierced..I just think it's too young..I wouldn't let her get her belly button pierced either until she was 16 or so.

MICHELLE - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughter who is turning 14 in a couple of weeks asked for the same thing. I don't think it's a good idea. I asked a lot of my family members and none of them felt is was something that my husband and I should let her do. My daughter told me she was going to ask us to get her tongue pierced, but she knew for sure I would say no. I've allowed her to wear make-up and that was a big thing, so I figured we needed to draw the line somewhere. Our daughter plans on participating in ROTC this year when she starts high school, and I don't think it's allowed. In my opinion I would wait a while longer before allowing it. Sometimes its seen as a cool thing, and later they will have wished they didn't do it.

Korrina - posted on 08/11/2009

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I personally feel 12 is a bit young to be starting into the body piercing but that said there are many dress codes that do not allow body (face) piercing that show or tattoos that are over a specified surface area. This includes multiple earrings. One such field is the medicine. Just let her know that in order to make a living she may have to give it up eventually. I doubt it will make a difference at her age but it needs to be said. As a side note at least a piercing is not forever as opposed to a tat.

Carline - posted on 08/11/2009

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I'm very old school & at that age no way would may daughter get her noise pierced. My daughter just turned 20 & she did get her first tattoo until she was 18 which she graduated from high school & went off to college. She also has it in a place where if she goes for a job interview it is not noticeable. I know peer pressure is very hard but she don't need it just to look cool or to impress anyone. Sit down & talk to her to find out the reason for the piercing. Now is the nose, i hope when she turns 16 it's not the belly button. How is your relationship with your daughter? I would encourage her on the reasons she shouldn't get it done at an early age. She is to young. I also wanted my nose pierced & i was 16 my parents said no way but once i turned 18 i paid for it. They didn't say anything because i was working & contributed money in the house.













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Carol - posted on 08/11/2009

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And I agree you should do research. You both should know all the facts before you decide. I also agree that if you both decide to do it then I believe that you should be beside her. Good luck.

Carol - posted on 08/11/2009

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My daughter did that in high school. Her approach with me was to cover a scar. When she got older and started looking for a job she used fishing line to keep it open, so it wasn't so noticeable ( the employer got a chance to get to know who she was before putting small jewelry in) She is now 30 and has removed it. It has closed up without any problems. She never did the tattoos.

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It really depends on how she is. I got my navel pierced at 15, but I was responsible enough to take care of it and I never got in trouble. I made straight A's and that's the only way I ever asked to be rewarded because of it. I still have it and get a ring through it, but it looks ugly. Be sure to discuss the fact that it'll most likely leave a mark forever if she decides to take it out. Be sure to discuss everything you can think of about a nose ring that you can think of! Go to a website about piercing and learn something about it, you can look up experieneces and pictures. There are sometimes pictures of piercings that grew out or got infected, scary possibilities. Personally, I would wait until she was a few years older.

User - posted on 08/10/2009

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gosh tough one!! i dont envy you jacqueline,,i would ask her is it because her friends have done it or she really thinks its cool. if shes determined to do it id let her..aslong as she realises it will always be there even when she gets fed up of it unless shes lucky enough the peircing closes after awhile..and keep the studs small..

User - posted on 08/10/2009

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Times are different than when we were kids. Is she a good student? Does she talk back and rebel? Do her chores? If the answers are yes, then let her explore who she is and go for it. She isn't sneaking around drinking and smoking, right? Then I don't see a problem...

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2009

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Pick your battles! You have to analize what stituations you want to give leway on and when its an absolute no! I think like the others said find out her motives! Honestly though i think the nose ring is much better than the belly ring and a whole lot of 12 and 13 year olds have those!

Danielle - posted on 08/08/2009

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I don't have any problem with kids getting pierced( I have a nose ring myself), but peersonally I would wait until my daughters were 16 yrs. Then again, who am I to say whats right or wrong? Kids these days seem to be growing up and trying to make themselves look a lot older than they actually are. If she's responsible, then maybe she's ready.

Marie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Talk to your daughter...if you feel she is mature enough to take care of it then she is ready to get it. If you don't then make her wait another year or two. Maybe put a stipulation on it that she has to maintain a certain grade for her first quarter of school otherwise it comes out. Also check with the school code to make sure it's appropriate.

My daughter wanted her nose pierced at 13 & because her grades were good and we talked about I let her do it. We tried to do it ourselves which didn't work out to well & I would not recommend, lol. But when she turned 14 we found a reputable shop that did it for us. She is now 17 and still has it in, she has a nice little stone that she wears that is nothing big and flashy. I myself am 36 and have two nose piercings that I've had for 17 years. As far as looking for jobs when she gets older...I have always taken mine out when I went to fill out applications and gone on interviews. Once I got hired, I would ask what the dress code is (which you should do anyway) and ask if nose rings were acceptable. Lucky for me most of the places I worked they were and if they weren't then I wouldn't wear them during the work day and put them in as soon as I clocked out and walked out the door...it's as simple as that.

Everyone is offering valid opinions, but remember it is their opinions. Ultimately the decision will be up to you and your daughter.

Charlie - posted on 08/08/2009

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I think its a generational thing as well . the younger generation are far more accepting of peoples freedom of self expression , i know here in Australia where i live and work piercings are not " going out " but have become far more popular and are absolutely more accepted in the professional field .
I am a school teacher who has had facial piercings at work and not only piercings but tattoos not to mention 3 other teachers working at my school also had facial piercings and tattoos .
We are all great teachers our students , their parents and our peers respected us based on our personality .
Come 10 - 15 years a nose ring will be just like earrings , people who say " you will be judged on your looks " are usually the ones doing the judging from what i have seen.
I know i would rather be the person happy in my own skin , then the person standing across the street being judgmental .

Chris - posted on 08/08/2009

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I have a daughter who will be 18 this month to date she has 2 piercings (her nose and her belly) and 2 tattoos she designed herself. I did have her wait for the nose piercing. I allowed her to get it when she was 15 and she got her first tattoo when she was 16. I had her wait only because I wanted to make sure it's what she truely wanted (she began asking at 13). There are many who pass judgement on younger girls that want a tattoo or a piercing which is a shame :( My daughter was/is an honor student & 3/4 to her AA degree before she graduated high school. Good luck with your decision or your daughter. I know I do not regret mine :)

Kazz - posted on 08/08/2009

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Thanks Kristen S for your comments.

I agree it would be very boring if we

all thought alike.

But you do come across as judgemental when

some one has a different view to your own.

This is not an attack on you it's just to highlight

how we all see things differently.

I'm sure no one was meaning to be nasty with

their comments

Anyway Good Luck Jacqueline with your decision

I'm sure this has given you much to think about x

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Kazz...you're absolutely right, this is about a 12/13 year old and the decision of a parent. Others have been saying it is stupid, bad as a parent to allow it, like a bull being controlled, etc, etc etc. This is judging based on opinions and beliefs. Not once did I judge anyone.

Yes, I said some here are being a bit rude and judgemental. I'm not judging, just stating the fact that a number of the words/comments used here are uncalled for. This conversation in particular has nothing to do with other cultures...but what if someone who IS part of the culture where nose rings are customary is reading this, and see some of the comments others have made (such as it being stupid, etc). I for one would be offended. All I'm asking is that people show a little discrimination before they type.

We are all entitled to our own opinons, and thank goodness the world doesn't think alike (how boring would that be!?). :o)

Kazz - posted on 08/08/2009

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Kristen S - Because a person has had piercing or tattoo's at a young age with the consent of their parent doesn't make it right for everyone.

This has nothing to do with religion or other peoples cultures.

it's about a 12/13 year old and the decision of a parent. Simple as that.

You say I should not judge but you have done exactly that.

Marie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Geeze. I thought piercings ike that were going out. Guess the Jr. High kids are a bit behind. I have 6 kids, three are grown and gone. One of the older three has had the piercing. SHe had, tongue, nose, eyebrow, and ears. She had them done as an older teen (about 18) I can honestly say it did hold her into certian jobs and such. With times being what they are you do not need trouble getting a job. She worked rimariy in restrant/bar/club type places . At 26 she finally decided to use her brain and go back to school (she was a straight A in school) She now works at a prominant hospital and is going to nursing school. She did have to get rid of her piercings. You can till see the marks and she did have an infection in her nose once. Not good for such a pretty girl.

I am not against piercings (I ave a belly button ring) but I think that anythign perminant (semi) should be considered strongly and should not be done on a child(13 is still a child IMO) That is why they need parental permission (hmm). MY daughter also has tattoos as well,on her bak and ankle Not bad but she does take time in many instances to cover them (whtat fun). As adults we are usually able to see hindsight a bit and learn more from others, see the big picture. Take advantage of that. My one son had a real clean cut look. Went to a friends hose and on a daare got a mohawlk. It was a great lesson for him He was being followed at malls, never happened before. Comments were being made to him by other kids he did not know..not somethign that he was used to. He learned first hand look do matter. We do not make the rules but are part of that society. Life as a teen can be a bit difficlt, don't make it harder.

Now we only hacve a 17, 8, and 6 year old left in the house. Three grown and three grandchildren. I say from experience, you are the parent, ,you make these kinds of decisions for the kids. Really examine your opinion. How will doiong this really effect my child ? What is the big picture ?

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Why is it bad parenting to allow your child to wear jewelery?



Piercings are jewelery. They are not permanent. If you have them done by a reputable piercer, and are taken care of properly, they will NOT get infected, and IF they scar it will not be a bad scar. I have had a total of 6 piercings in my life (currently just my ears). The ONLY scar I have from ANY of them is a tiny pin-prick that you can not even notice on my eyebrow, and my lip. Again, you can not notice them unless I mention it, and have you look right up close. Take a look at my profile pic...that's the side of my nose that was pierced. No hideous scar.



I'm a stay at home mother now, but when I was working, not a single employer had a problem with any of my piercings. This was in the customer service industry. Dealing with people all day long.



Kazz, I understand where you're coming from, but how dare you say that to allow a child to have a facial piercing is bad parenting! My mother is a born again Christian, the BEST mother a girl could ask for. She was there for me always, knew how to discipline, and was very responsible as a parent. Growing up, she was my parent first, friend second (more so a parent). I had my first tattoo at the age of 14. She was sitting right next to me. I had my first piercing at the age of 15. Again, she was sitting right next to me. Now, 12 years later I only have my ears pierced, and I still LOVE my first tattoo (and all others I've had since then). I chose to get these things done quite young, and it did NOT change me as a person. I was the first of anyone I know to have anything done like that...so I wasn't following any trends at all. I was doing what I liked, what interested me, and what was part of my personality. I'm so thankful that my mother was comfortable enough with my long-thought decisions to allow me to express my individuality! To this day I'm still a huge fan of classy piercings and tattoos. My husband and I are going to get some ink done together!



That's wonderful we all have our own opinions, but let's stick to facts, not name-calling. You can not label a parent a 'bad parent' simply because they have different opinions and values than you. You can not call them wrong because they disagree with you.



Allowing a child to have a piercing does not, in any way shape or form make you bad parent. Let's face it, times are changing, and now, a nose piercing is the exact same thing that an ear piercing was 20 years ago! It is a needle, going through a body part. Plain and simple. Please explain how this is any different from one piercing to the next?



To the asker, Jacqueline....only you can decide what your answer will be. Is your daughter responsible with decisions? Is she a good girl who is her own person? Sit down and talk with her about why she wants it done. In all seriousness, it is only a piercing. If it does turn out she doesn't like it, she can take it out and it will close up within a couple days. It is NOT permanent like others have said. It closes up quite easily...like I said, mine closed up overnight, with NO scaring!



For the record, for some, a nose piercing IS a religious thing. For a number of religions in the Middle East women and children alike adorn nose rings. Since immigration is huge in this day and age, there are thousands of women AND children in North America who wear nose rings. So calling it bad-parenting, stupid, etc is not only rude and judgmental, but discriminating as well.

Kay - posted on 08/08/2009

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I know a girl that had it done and it caused a bad scar because it got infected and now it there forever! I also know that in the professional field, it is very much frowned on. My daughters wanted their belly button pierced, but we did not let our oldest daughter get it until she was 18 and I'm glad I did. I think they should be an adult before making a decision to do somthing like that to their bodies, because it is permanent.I think 12 is very young to decide somthing like this, usually it is because other friends have it.

Kazz - posted on 08/08/2009

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I agree it doesn't make you a bad person but we are
judged by society on our appearance Thats Life and
nothing to do with religion etc.
A 12 year old is still looking to see where they fit in this world
and are a long way off feeling comfortable in their own skin
that's why we are there to guide them as responsible parents.

Charlie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Do people actually think when you walk into a tattooist / piercers you come out with a nice new piercing , tattoo and a criminal record ?? LOL

Jacqueline your daughter is obviously mature enough to ask for your permission , trust me many kids would not even ask , they would just get some girl with a safety pin to do it .
Piercings are just jewellery , i personally dont see a difference between an ear piercing and a nose piercing .

Kazz - posted on 08/08/2009

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My comment wasn't meant to offend Kristen S - it's just
my opinion which we are all entitled too.
But where does it stop I know a 17 year old
that in the last 4 months has had several face piercings
including her tongue which her mother would
had to sign to ok here - is that good
parenting - I personally say no but again
that's my opinion.

User - posted on 08/07/2009

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I am the mother of 16 year old twins (boy and girl) my daughter pierced her nose and belly this summer for her birthday. My son after much thought and consideration was allowed to get a tattoo on hid leg of a cross and his favorite bible verse. They are both responsible and respectful the piercings can always grow up and the tattoo is something he will still like when he is older. I think you need to sit down and talk w/your kids and find out what and why they want it. Mine had to wait until 16 because that is when my husband and I saw the maturity in them to make decide something of that magnitude. In the end you know you child if not know is a good time to start.

Elise - posted on 08/07/2009

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To have a little diamond piercing in her nose... well. Why would you not let her do it? If she is a good kid that makes good decisions, whata makes this a bad one? Is she just not being "mom"? What is she trying to accomplish by this? I would say it is not permanent, let it go. But whatever you let go, they will ALWAYS take farther. Love her.

Sharyn - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have both peircing and tattoos, and i agree with some of this, it looks stupid on young girls,,,,and great on older people, Let me just say i have never been turned down from a job because i have a stud in my nose.

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I've been keeping up with this topic, and I've got to say that many of these comments are very offensive.



"....not a bull that needs to be controlled when handling..."

"....more sense then to put holes in her face..."



Etc, etc.



I've had many piercings. Currently only my ears. I absolutely LOVED my nose piercing. It was a classy, tiny little diamond, and I had tons of compliments on it. I've had it out for nearly 5 years now, and there IS NO SCAR. To have someone comment that it's like controlling a bull, or that I have no sense because I had it done is very offensive to me. Not to mention that in some cultures it's a religious practice! My nose piercing (or ANY of my previous piercings or tattoos) did not make me a bad person. They did not make me a rebel. They did not make me a more 'cool' person. I did not get them to fit in (like previously mentioned, my first tattoo was at 14, and my first piercing was at 15). I never was one to get things done just to 'fit in'. Getting my first piercing or tattoo didn't lead to 'further fitting in problems'. I did not get them to be part of the 'cool' crowd. I got them because I liked the look. I got them because it was something I had thought about, and decided very much fit my personality. I am now nearing 26 years old, and I still LOVE my tattoo that I got nearly 12 years ago.



Over all, it really doesn't matter what any of us mommies think about nose-piercings...it would just be great if the little insults and personal comments (such as the above I mentioned) could be kept out of it. Respect for others and their choices (or their culture) should always be remembered.

Kazz - posted on 08/07/2009

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For me it would be a NO - far too young.
I've always think they look like a spot
on the side of the nose.
When they are older then that is up to her.
But personally I would hope my daughter
would have more sense then to put
holes in her face.

Tanya - posted on 08/07/2009

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My daughter is 12 years nearly 13 and the answer would be NO-WAY

Why because it will leave a indent or hole if she takes it out after a few years when the fad has passed as my sister who had it done can show.Also she is not a bull that needs to be controlled when handling.

Lena - posted on 08/07/2009

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I had my nose done @ 13 behind my parents back and it caused all kinds of hell.I was quite happy that my 2 daughters wanted my permission and wanted to discuss it with me first. i made them research the ins and outs of taking care of the piercing etc.and when they each turned thirteen i allowed them to get it done. i would advise that if you do let your daughter go ahead with the piercing,then go to a proper piercing studio and not some chemist and have it done with an ear gun.

Megan - posted on 08/07/2009

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if she is aware at the risks and can take care of it. but if she is the forgetful type it maybe best to wait until 16. also doing stuff like this to fit in now may lead to further fitting in behaviors in the future.

Rocio - posted on 08/07/2009

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I personally don't think that is an appropriate age for a child. I have a 12 yr old myself and I would never let her pierce her nose. In everything we discuss from make-up, to boys and etc. I tell my daughter everything comes with responsibility. I was raised by strict parents and always thought I'd be lenient about stuff but I am finding to that topics such as tattoos, piercings and even make-up my daughter will have to earn that right. And what I mean by that is good grades, helping around the house, chores, and proving that she can be responsible enough to consider such things.



I will admit though I am having a hard time with youngsters that have various piercings and tattoos at a young age though. I just think if they can't go into a tattoo/piercing place at 13 and get one on their own then they shouldn't be able to get one until they are of age.

Brandi - posted on 08/07/2009

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My answer NO!!!!! I have one who is about to be 16. She has no body piercings. She has asked me for her 16th b-day if me and her would go get a tattoo together. my reply when she is old enough to sign the waiver herself we will. And thats how I feel about body piercings. I have nothing against body piercings or tattoos. I have a tattoo and a tounge ring. Kids these days want to grow up too fast! I'm straight up old school!!

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I am a "cool" mother of 3, my oldest is 15. In my personal opinion, I would have to say tell her NO! In these years (teenagers) they change their minds so often and a piercing like this or the belly-buttonor lip or tung...takes quite sometime to heal-well mine did anyway. This week they want it then as soon as its not cool anymore they want to get a tattoo-are you gonna let her do that too? Anyway its up to us as parents to set boundries with our kids and for me this is one of those things that I think should be waited on untill older. My daughter says "but mom its just a way to express myself" I tell her that she writes the most beautiful poetry and I encourage her to express herself that way not by changing her apperaence with piercing....not yet anyway save that adventure for college. : )

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I told my 12 year old that besides the ears, all other piercings would not be considered until she was 16. I remember being 12 and making decisions that were not as important and wished I could turn them around years later. 12 is too young for anything permanent in my oppinion. My daughter has accepted the fact that I am making her wait. Plus it gives her something to look forward to as well as gives her time to really think it over. She may change her mind in a couple years. Who knows?

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I feel it should not be allowed...at 12 almost 13 they have not a clue of life (though they think they do) and most the time it is because someone else has been allowed to do so and they want to be like them. We need to teach our children it is acceptable to be themselves not everyone. We all have different looks and genenetic so why try taking away from that by wanting to be like someone else. And long as she is still under your care and supervision you have the right to say yes or no.. don't worry about being popular with her and her friends or trying to be her friend...if you do not want her to do it then don't allow it, after all at the age she is if I am not mistaken parental permission is required (if done at a reputible establishment) When she becomes of age and can make those choices without any recourse upon so be it. Til then if you are against it stick to your guns!

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i have an almost 16 yr old girl (along with two toddlers) and we began to have this batte at about 13. Facial piercings were where we drew our line...so she moved to dad's house :) She is back with us but while she lived with dad he let her get a "monroe" piercing in exchange for taking out the nose (he thought it looked nicer). So we have lost the battle with piercings and she has recently shown her interest in ear gauges and much to our dismay she has stretched her earlobes to the point that her index finger can go through it. NOW, she tells me she wants her nose pierced for her 16th birthday. The reason I share ALL of this is that I have to wonder: "where does it end?" I would advise you wait as long as possible and to be quite frank, the ONLY reasons 13 yr girls (or 16 for that matter) do anything is to fit in or to be rebellous! Ok, one more thing before I get off my soapbox: to the moms who think they need to be a friend and a mom...children need parents. They need parents who have boundries and show love by enforcing such boundries. Kids can get their own friends :)

Ellen - posted on 08/06/2009

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I personally have a little diamond, lol, and I've had it for years. I think if You feel ok with it that is all that matters, but keep in mind what schools think of it before you get it done, poor thing might have to take it out if the school frowns upon it!

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I feel like 12-13 is too young for this in my own opinion BUT I was also the 16 year old that came home with my eyebrow pierced at Thanksgiving. And it was done by a friend with a straight pin-very stupid idea. So, I think it's wonderful that your daughter is talking to you about this and that as a mom you are keeping an open mind. The question that pops into my mind is what will they say at school? Is it going to be allowed? Despite what alot of moms are saying....piercings do not generally leave noticeable scars. And piercings are not permanent. If she were my daughter I would tell her not until she is 16 but this is not my child. I would definitely make her earn this though if you allow her to get it done. And to all moms that think you can just say no & that be that-ask my mother. I was told no & did it anyways. ;). Please if she gets it done, take her to a tattoo parlor, etc. that has a licensed piercer. Don't let them do it with a piercing gun.

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my mum is very responsible and let me get my belly pierced at 12 almost 13. it was for my 13th birthday present just 10 days early. i told her all the kids at school had it done. she drew the line after that so when i got my eye brow and nose done i had to take my dad to sign consent forms. i got all up my ears done and i got my tat at 17 when i was out of home

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