Not able to take birth control?

Keera - posted on 04/03/2011 ( 213 moms have responded )

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I can’t take any form of birth control, even the ones that release the smallest amount. They all make me constantly bleed & I’m anemic which the constant bleeding makes it worse. I have looked into cervical caps (FemCap) and it just looks to uncomfortable & I don’t even want to try it. My fiance & I already have a son who will be 1 on April 7th and we’re not wanting another child for a few years. We use condoms but they aren’t 100%. Anyone in the same situation? Can anyone help?



***I have talked to my doctor about this. He says there are other brands but with everything being about the same I will have the same results. His office will provide condoms. But he also says I'm his only patient with this issue & he is looking more into it.

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Elfrieda - posted on 04/04/2011

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I hate putting hormones into my body, it makes me feel yucky and PMSy. I did it for 2 years, and finally one of those really low-dose ones was okay for me, but I'm not keen to get back on it.



For the last 15 months we've been using condoms, which are not that fun, either. In January I read this book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, and learned how to know what's going on in my body just by checking my temperature every morning and noticing the slimeyness "down there" and writing it down.



It's shocking how obvious it is when I'm ovulating, when I'm going to get my period, and when it's okay not to use condoms at all because there's no way I could get pregnant at that time. Why didn't I know about this before?? It wouldn't have taken us 7 months to conceive last time, if I'd known this basic info.



It hasn't failed us yet, and we're using Fertility Awareness Method with condoms only when I'm fertile. I like it much better.

Also, no birth control method is 100%, anyway. You take your chances whenever you have sex. :)

Jocelyn - posted on 04/04/2011

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You could try a Copper T. They are hormone free and last...something like 10 years. The only thing I've been warned about them is that they could make your periods a bit heavier.

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i read a lot of good advice here. first i have to say its your body and youll know when you find the right method for you. the tricky part is finding it. i stopped taking hormonal bc after to many side effects. i am allergic to latex, lamb skin condoms are very pricey and less effective but i never conceived while using them. i had the copper IUD for about 2 yrs and it was horrible, had it removed. my mother had many of the same side effects when shed tried it. so i think that was a genetic thing. i know alot of woman that use them without a single complication. so id suggest trying that. the best method and i feel more effective then condoms even is knowing your rhythm. i used a basel (sp?) thermometer for sometime. you use it in the morning, before you get out of bed. when you ovulate your temp will spike. i stopped using it though when i started to feel my cycle/rythm. after awhile you can see the patterns in your mood appetite, discharge and so on. i actually have my calender marked with the day of my cycle. that way i can also keep track of changes in my cycle which can sometimes be the warning of changes in your health. so i lived by the 10 free days of sex rule (first 10 days of your cycle) but have recently found out that ovulation only happens for about 4 days. but as an extra precaution i put it into a 6 day window. you just have to be able to determine when your ovulating. so then you can just skip having sex on those days to be careful, depends on your level of fertility, or use a condom or spermicide. i prefer the spermicide sheets.

hope some of this helps and goodluck!

Minnie - posted on 04/04/2011

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Hormonal birth control isn't 100% effective either...it runs somewhere around 93-95%. *shrugs*

We choose to use condoms because I refuse to put hormones in my body. We did accidentally conceive back in October, but we weren't using condoms, only NFP. We've never had a failed condom.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/14/2011

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this is crap. there is many with this issue. if your not seeing an obgyn please do so. I've had this issue my entire life. I'm now 32. before the doctors actually listened to me I was losing so much blood with clots the size of a mans wrists (TMI i kno lol). They even went so far as to do a DNC on me to scrape out the lining of the uterus. Come to find out I had endometreousis, the lining won't shed on the normal mthly schedule so it thickens, then sheds and sheds. I had the very same issues as you. they said in the end it was adding to many hormones to my system. I finally decided I had a child already so I was ready to give up. I asked for a hysterectomy. My dr refused saying I was too young. I waited 2yrs, suffering because I felt I had no where to turn. Finally one day I went back but my dr was gone. I seen a female OBGYN and filled her in on all i'd gone through. She even went so far as to give me a full exam. Seeing for herself the issues. She listened, and agreed instantly that I needed a hysterectomy. in 2wks I had not only had it scheduled. but done. Now I am done with the issues. I read you'll eventually want another child. But with this its possible you won't be able to have another child if this continues. Also ask them about Poly Cystric Ovary Disease. I have it, and it causes bleeding from cysts popping. They only found it because they did a ultra sound on me at one point b4 doing the DNC. Good Luck.

LuvMyBella - posted on 04/14/2011

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maybe TMI but maybe you can talk with your fiance about using a combination method of wearing a condom and pulling out before he reaches climax. I don't know if that's solid advice I'm not a Doctor but it's worth talking to your fiance and Doctor about. Good luck!

Brynna - posted on 04/14/2011

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You need to buy the book, "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. I read her book & started using the fertility awareness method to avoid 10 yrs ago... and I have not had a single accidental pregnancy in all these years. It was very enlightening to finally understand how & why my body works the way it does. There is also a computer program called 'OvuSoft' that comes with the book. It will take about 3 cycles for the software to start understanding your personal fertility signals & working with you to understand how your body works.

btw: I can't use any of the standard contraceptives either. I got pregnant on a combined contraceptive effort; BCP, Spermicide, Condom, withdrawal = I think God just had a plan for her to exist. :p I had the Copper T IUD & it coiled up into my uterus & created all sorts of problems. I used the NuvaRing & have now had 4 blood clots (the first was triggered by using the ring). I used to use the diaphragm but after a few months I developed a sensitivity and can no longer use it. There really aren't that many options for those of us with 'complications'... but I wish you the best. ((hugs)) You are not alone.

Wynsda - posted on 04/14/2011

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Jennifer Tofflemire, Only problem with that is, Mirena releases hormones and to my understanding, that's where her problems come from. However, I've been on Mirena since mid November 2009, and I love it...it's worth a try. If there's a problem, it can always be removed.

Meghan - posted on 04/14/2011

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Also depending on what birth control method you can be causing your body to abort newly concieved babies...

Meghan - posted on 04/14/2011

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Did you ever consider "Natural Family Planning" - after I took classes from it last year we have been very happy using it...it is more sure than any "birth control"....depending where you live there are classes all over to help you understand your body. My classes used a combination of basal body tempetures and mucus method. I love it because it is ALL natural and none of that homone stuff etc. I am also allergic to spermacide. Hope this is helpful to you!

Casey - posted on 04/14/2011

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I don't actually have a medical condition that makes it unsafe for me to take the pill, I just hate taking them because the hormones mess with me so bad. Make me break out, make my periods/cramps worse, etc.
I'm planning to have an IUD put in 6 weeks after I give birth to my first. It's a little "T" shaped thing that the doctor inserts into your uterus with a simple out patient procedure. You can leave it in for up to three or five years, I don't remember which but there is a plastic and a metal one. I want to say the metal one is the five year one because the plastic one has a little time-release hormone thing on it that I would think would need to be changed out sooner rather than later...
As far as I've heard it's completely painless once your cervix has had time to heal from the initial procedure.
Good luck!

Yanira - posted on 04/14/2011

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You can't do the ring or IUD? I would rather do the ring because I bleed WAY more on the IUD. You always try the natural method where you chart your fertile days and check your mucus so you know when to use condom when ur going to ovulate. Look into the natural family planning method.

D. Christine - posted on 04/14/2011

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wow i was alergic to them also:( not fun but i did try the nuvaring ask your doctor about that,, i kindof was ok with it

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2011

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Hey Keera,
I'm in the same situation!!! I have taken the patch, the shot, iud(minerna), and now implanon.. all of those i'd had extreme side effects/ symptoms and i'm not going to say i am ok with it but i understand that sometimes those are the symptoms... ive already gotten into an argument with my bf over birth control and he wants me to remove this implanon that i have now. i got it in oct of last year am still bleeding. its not cool i know that but my doc told me it takes 6 months to about a year for your body to get used to it but my bf says thats unhealthy and etc... i have no idea what else to do because the reason for me using the IUD and then getting implanon was because the years part. I like bc that i dont have to remember and more. im in the hunt to find sometype of control because condoms arent 100 and i cant afford to have another child right now. but i am definately looking for something. i'm thinking of trying the pill but dont want to have to remember to do it.

Jannie - posted on 04/14/2011

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You might try VCF (vaginal contraceptive film). You have to put it inside you 15 minutes before hand every time, but it works. I can't take birth control for other reasons and this has been the least-hassle, best-results way for be to have "birth control". Best of luck!

Rebecca - posted on 04/14/2011

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I am a little similarly in that all the birth control (even with the tiniest amount of medicine) does stuff to my body. My doctor recommended paraguard which is like mirena in shape but has no medication whatsoever on it. It is just a copper coil that blocks your tubes and can be removed if you wish to have more kids. I hope that helps.

Hannah - posted on 04/14/2011

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Have you looked into Natural Family Planning (NFP)? It is all about knowing your body, charting your cycle and avoiding intercourse when you would conceive. No harmful substances to put in your body. I use it because frankly the side effects of birth control scare me.

Erin - posted on 04/14/2011

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IUD? (Intrauterine device) it's just copper and plastic! No hormones.. I have the same problem with birth control. Hope this helps ;)

Amy - posted on 04/14/2011

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go with the paragaurd IUD. It is a copper coil with no hormones at all and lasts for 10 years.

Queen - posted on 04/14/2011

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Sorry you are having trouble. I to can't take birth control pills. My doctor told me I'm a prime canidate for depo shot. It work just fine for me for nine years. I have had very little weight gain. My doctor also suggested to increase my calcium intake and watch my diet. Hope this helps.

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2011

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I have the Paragard IUD, it's copper so it's non hormonal, and i love it...yes the spotting is a pain in the butt, but the positives outweigh that by about a million percent

Shanna - posted on 04/14/2011

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I cant use any form of birth control because of migraine headaches...My husband and I use the withdrawl method, and it worked perfectly for over 6 years...I just found out I was pregnant again. There are IUD's which are non hormonal, female condoms, diaphram, vaginal foam spermicide, and other such non hormonal methods....Ask your doc if any of those are right for you

Katherine - posted on 04/14/2011

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have u been offered the implant a friend of mine has it and she's fine...its almost completely 100% and is safe see if your doctor will allow you that rather than more common contraceptives.

Candyce - posted on 04/14/2011

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You could try a copper IUD, or the rhythm method in conjunction with condoms if you have regular cycles. Nothing fail-safe, but it can help. Whatever you do, DON'T rely on withdrawal! Sperm is often present before ejaculation and those little suckers swim, so it's kinda pointless.



Blessed Be



ETA: My sister has Mirena, and we're both a bit anaemic, but I don't think she's had any problems with bleeding. Then again, everyone's different.

Leyla - posted on 04/14/2011

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Leyla - posted on 04/14/2011

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Anyone fancy sharing their birth story with me? I would like to add it to www.motherhooddiaries.com, which is a totally free site that is designed to take readers on a journey, through the highs and lows of pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood! Thanks mummies :-)

Nicky - posted on 04/14/2011

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I"m not able to take it either becasue i have high blood pressure and the hormones in bc raise my bp.

Manjushree - posted on 04/14/2011

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Joanna - posted on 04/14/2011

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Take a look at the website tcoyf.com. It combines three methods of natural birth control to create a super-effective way to control conception. It takes a little bit of effort, but it is very simple to implement and is 100% natural. My husband and I used this between the birth of our first child and the conception of our second - and, yes, we planned when we would have the second child to a T. In my view, it is too bad that more women don't know about such things!

Bruffel - posted on 04/14/2011

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I can't do hormonal birth control either so we tried natural family planning. It has worked now for 4 years for us. It also connects you so much to your body.

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2011

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Hi Keera, I sympathize with you. I can not take BC based on the fact that I have APLS (a common blood disorder that will almost always cause clotting with hormones added to your system and often causes miscarriages, etc.). I have to take coumadin for life because of this and they did a HYsterectomy in 05 because of the heavy heavy bleeding and anemia. Prior to being diagnosed, I had had several DVTs and at age 18 had one break loose and go to my lungs. Thankfully I'm here to tell about it.
I had an IUD put in after a few years of fighting with Medicaid and it was the best thing I could have done. Another pregnancy would have probably killed me. The pros to this, however, are that there are no hormones and when you decide to have another child you can have it removed and you are instantly able to start trying. No hormone waits, no recovery period, etc.. They are much different and much safer than the ones that caused problems in the 1970s. I previously used a diaphram... lost 80 lbs. and got pregnant. They failed to tell me that if your weight fluctuates by 8-10lbs your cap might not fit properly. When I got married my husband had four children and a vasectomy. I got diagnosed the week prior to my wedding and we didn't plan on any more children so it was not at all a problem for me. Just my two cents worth, hope it helps.
Jes

Kerrie - posted on 04/14/2011

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I would suggest that you maybe try the Paragard if you are looking for something nonhormonal. It is a copper IUD and it can stay in for up to 10 years. I have it and I like it. It is more effective than condoms. While I noticed it at first, after a month or two I don't notice anything at all.

Pam - posted on 04/14/2011

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there is a natural method called Natural Family Planning, it required taking a few classes to learn the method. Have used it successfully myself and know many couples with the same result. Does require a commitment on the couple's part, so success will depend on that commitment. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 04/14/2011

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I see you have alot of comments, and i see some ppl say IUD and mention the copper T (copper IUD) just wanted to say i have the mirena IUD, i dont bleed at all, (not supposed to with this one, only with copper one) ive had it for 5 yrs with the exeption of the yr i took it out to have my second baby. love it, dont feel it, best thing ive ever found. heres the website. http://www.mirena-us.com/ or google it. goes it easy, just in the docs office like a PAP test.

Bev - posted on 04/14/2011

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You might look into a paraguard IUD. Totally hormone free and lasts up to 10 years. Good lucK!

Billie - posted on 04/14/2011

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You could do a iud. It's called mirena. I'm not allowed to take birth control either. This is the only thing besides condoms I can use.

Yeukai - posted on 04/14/2011

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Hi Keera, i have a friend in a similar position, with her the birth control chemicals make her retain too much water as well as bleed. She has reverted back to condoms and they've been using them for years.

Kairy - posted on 04/14/2011

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After reading upteen billion posts on this forum I just wanted to add a few observations. First, it is obvious that this is a 'hot' topic for most women. Almost everyone has had good and bad experiences. Second, most of the recommendations have to do with personal experience. If you find that something doesn't work with your body, try something else. It certainly isn't economically easy to have LOTS of kids, so it is worth the search. Basically anything on the market is proven generally safe. Nothing is perfect for every person.

I am OK with the pill, but am very forgetful. The hormone shots made me CRAZY, but some people really like them. I would assume that a hormonal implant would react similarly. Before the birth of my first child I used NuvaRing and LOVED it. After both kids I paid, out of pocket for the insertion during a normal exam, for a copper IUD that works great for me. Condoms are messy and inconvenient, but better than nothing. I know a lot of kids that were born from parents using NFP.

It is a personal choice. Good luck!

Suzi - posted on 04/14/2011

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Hi I have the same problem, but my dr won't do any thing cuz of my age. The only fing we found 2 control the bleeding was hormone pills. Hope this helps :)

Tammi - posted on 04/13/2011

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Have you tried the IUD ...it is a device they can put into you and it doesn't release any hormones. You usually can get them if you already have a child, and are in a monogamous relationship. I had one after my first child was born and I loved it. I have 4 children now and had my tubes tied so I don't have to worry about it anymore :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/13/2011

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i would get the paraguard iud.. i was on the mirena and i ended up with cervical cancer from it. icky process and it was painful but since i have been on the paraguard (3 years now) i have had no problems with excessive bleeding or pains or anything like that. im anemic too and all other birth control methods bothered me but not the paraguard

Coral - posted on 04/13/2011

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i had this problem after my first son and went and got a Merina and it last for up to 5 year and you can have it taken out before then

Caroline - posted on 04/13/2011

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Have you looked into NFP? We have used it the entire 6 years of our marriage and I am very happy with it. We used it to avoid pregnancy for almost 2 years, and then we used it to conceive our first child (took us 3 cycles.) I did then have a rather shocking surprise pregnancy when my first son was only 4 1/2 months old but I would not consider that an NFP failure. I ignored signs that my fertility was already returning despite round the clock breastfeeding. It was kind of a freak thing but also one of the biggest blessings of my life. Anyway, It's now been 2 years since my second son was born and we continue to use NFP to avoid pregnancy. Actually I wouldn't even say that we use NFP anymore because I cut a lot of corners when it comes to tracking my signs...I do what works for me but wouldn't really recommend it to anyone else. Anyway, there are a lot of great websites out there if you want to look into it. I recommend the NFP board on ivillage.com - they can direct you some good resources. http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Natural-Fa... I also like Taking Charge of Your Fertility - the book and the website. These days you can even do all your charting on-line and there are programs to help you. You can also find courses - both "in-person" and internet courses to help. It is really good when you first start to have someone who can work with you to answer questions. No medication, no hormones, no side effects, very little cost, just working with your body's natural cycles. And no, you do not have to be "regular."

Jessica - posted on 04/13/2011

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I can't use hormones and find the diapham works well, although a bit inconvenient it is painless and i don't notice it once it's in place. you'll find that the likely hood of condoms braking in very unlikely the stats that say they are 99.9% affective include stats about brakage. Understanding your cycle is also very effective as long as you do it properly Good luck :)

Tracy - posted on 04/13/2011

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I can not take any kind of hormonal birth control either. And we have (4) children to prove it!!!! The only thing that worked for 6 years was the old IUD that has NO hormones in it. I was on Premera last year for 6 months. Oh yeah it lessen my the severity of my periods but then they lasted for 3 weeks and i didn't notice until I was in a deep depression that something was really wrong. They finally removed it when I told them that Suicide was looking like a good option. Good luck.

Tracy

Nicole - posted on 04/13/2011

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Have you looked into Minera, or an IUD? I have one and it just releases a small amount of hormone directly into the uterus. It helps reduce heavy bleeding. I started it because my migranes were caused by the change in hormone levels on the pill. It made me bleed a little extra for a few months, now i barely have a period at all. It is inserted and lasts for 5 years. check it out! I love it!

Yolanda - posted on 04/13/2011

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I had the mirena, and have just recently had it taken out bc I want to get pregnant. All in all it worked great for me and it was good for 5 yrs. There is discomfort in the begining with the insertion and the adjustment to having it but I loved it. The ease of not having to worry about missing a pill was great and all you have to do is check to make sure you still feel the string and you are good to go. Everything has side effects so bare that in mind and talk with your doc about the mirena.

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get a copy of Toni Weschler's book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". Your public library probably has a copy. It's the best guide out there for the FAM NFP - fertility awareness method of natural family planning. When you can pinpoint your ovulation and your fertile days, you can use a barrier method with condoms, etc.

Melanie - posted on 04/13/2011

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Look into the Billings birth control method. I don't know all about it but it has to do with tracking your fertile days and avoiding having sex on them. I've heard it's very effective if done right. Worth looking into.

Meredith - posted on 04/13/2011

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I'm in kind of a similar situation. I got a blood clot while on hormonal birth control a little over a year ago. I'm currently expecting our second child and my husband and I were looking into options for after the baby comes. Unfortunately there is not a lot out there that's not permanent without hormones. My options were basically copper IUD (which doesn't have any hormones at all) or sterilization. Lame. Luckily my husband and I are stopping the family at 2 kids. I can't imagine having the situation of continuing birth control after this one, especially when my dr will not prescribe anything with hormones (not that I would ask... blood thinners are nasty business).
I completely understand and sympathize with your situation and it sucks. :/

Esa - posted on 04/13/2011

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I think the Mirena IUD doesn't use any form of hormone. I have considered it but have not researched it enough yet.

Steph - posted on 04/13/2011

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Try an IUD. There is one kind that doesn't give off any hormones. That is what I had to use.

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